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Q: well me and my boyfriend have been dating for around four months and i really like him. i have stronger feelings for him then i did with my ex boyfriend of almost two years which is crazy and i cant really understand why.. but there's a problem. ive cheated on him three times with two different guys and i know if i keep hanging out with guys i will.. and honestly i want to. i dont know why and how i could do that to him when i really do care about him and i know what you're thinking "if you really liked him you wouldnt be able to do that" but thing is i can and i know i really do like this guy. sad thing is im almost positive he's cheated on me too. (not just by hearing things or guessing ive got real clues..). i dont think its healthy for us to cheat on each other and whatnot but we are crazy about each other. what should we do? we cant break up with each other and we don't want to but what would be best or is there a way we can make things better?

The best thing for you and him is to just put an end to this relationship. It's four months into the relationship and you've both already cheated on each other, that's just too unhealthy.

Besides, you both are living a lie. He probably doesn't know that you've cheated on him multiple times and you're lucky that you've found out that he's cheating too. You both havn't even confronted these issues.

The thing is that if you have the urge to cheat and feel like you will for sure, then do the current guy you are with a favor and dump him before you run off with somebody else. Cheating damages people and plays with their emotions so badly and you have to take that into consideration. You can seriously ruin future relationships that will actually matter. When you are married you don't want to tear it up by cheating.

What you should do is when you feel the urge to do something with another guy, just don't do it. Think about how wrong it would be to hurt this guy's feelings. You have control over this problem, you can control what you do with a guy. Take that control and channel it toward this. If you can, get out of the situation.

-TheTeenGirl

Rating: 5

thank you so much! you made me look at the situation in a totally different way.. in a way i should be looking at it in

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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.

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