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Q: i'm going to try and make this brief
by just stating facts first off.

-i am a sixteen year old girl
-i had this boyfriend for 6 months.
-we broke up because he said he was confused,
and was starting to have a change of feelings
for me.

it's been three months since the breakup.
we're still friends, we never really stopped.

lately i've been doing horrible in school,
so he offered to tutor me.
he came over last night and we went over homework,
but he would occasionally get unfocussed.
so i asked him what was wrong and he said
he just had alot of things on his mind.
so of course, i asked him what they were,
and he wouldnt tell me at first,
but eventually he said
"im starting to have feelings for you again,
and it's just so weird how this is the first
time we've hung out since the break up"

and from there we kindof locked eyes, and he
said he really missed kissing me, and he started
to cry. saying how much he misses me but he doesnt
want to give me the wrong idea if he kissed me
because he doesnt know what he wants. which is
why he wont even ask out this other girl. cause
he's confused.

[now mind you right now he's KINDOF with that other girl, theyre not dating, but supposadly
they like eachother and they kiss once in a
while and that kind of stuff, but theyve
been going downhill the past 2 weeks]

wo we kissed. but not just making out. he
would kiss my forhead and my nose and say
how im beautiful and all that. and i was
so happy because i thought maybe he wanted
to be with me again.

his mom called and we went to wait outside
while his mom drove to pick him up. and it was
pouring outside and it was dark. me and him
just stood there and he said "maybe we shouldnt
have done what we did, i dont want you to
expect me to ask you out right away becayse
i honestly dont know what i want."

and he started crying again, saying how he couldnt
bare to hurt me again. and all this stuff.

his mom came to get him, and he hugged me goodbye.

and later that night he called me and told me
that what we did was a mistake. and how he couldnt
see uss together again. but how he still has
feelings for me he's just afraid if we date
he'll lose feelings again.

so i dont know what to do. i love him so much.
i always have and i probabbly will for a long
time. im happy we got to hang out after so long.
and im happy i got to kiss him but i dont
know what to expect out of this.



please help me. im sorry this is long.
ill rate hi for sure.


thanks




He must be really confused if he can't seem to make up his mind about you.

The only option you have is to wait for him to decide whether he wants to be with you or not. I mean, I wouldn't turn down any other guys you like because you are waiting for him because it sounds to me like he's probably not going to try being with you again anytime soon. I want to tell you that he wants to be with you, and it's true at the same time, but then again he should just get with you instead of kissing you or touching you as if you both are already together.

It's just teasing and toturing you by kissing you and then telling you later that it was a mistake. He acts like he's trying to prevent from hurting you, but you probably aren't feeling so great about being told he wants to be with you, and then suddenly he changes his mind.

What you should do is ask this guy whether he wants to be with you or not and that you need an up front honest answer because you want to move on as soon as you can if he decides to go a different direction.

-TheTeenGirl

thank you so much that truely helped =]

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TheTeenGirl
My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.

I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
So anyway I'm here again. It's been a long time, but I still love giving advice and still plan on it in the future.

Everyone should feel free to Private Message me for advice, I can be harsh, but I'm always trying to help someone by giving them the truth they need.

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