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Q: ok so i've been goin out with this girl for like half a year now (i dunno really i lost count) and lately her sister (REALLY HER HALF SISTER kinda well they have the same mom) has been trying to get us to break up because she thinks i'm not good enough for her. her sister is really starting to get to her and my girlfriend won't admit it and she wants to handle this on her own. I WANT to help her cause whoever the hell makes my girlfriend mad should get what they diserve. her sister even mad her cry one time and she keaps on trying to get my girlfriend to dump me and go out with this kid lee (who i haven't met). my girlfriend says she can handle it but i can't i have to do something and she won't even give me my girlfriends sister's cellphone number cause she doesn't think she needs my help. I CAN'T STAND IT THO. i NEED to do something about this so what should i do?!?!

Whether your girlfriend can handle her sister or not, you cannot do or say anything that will make her change her mind about you. So you are better off staying out of it.

I know you hate to see her crying and letting it get her, but you both will have to do your best to ignore her and wait until your girlfriend tells her to get off of her back about Lee and any other guys she wants to hook her up with.

My question would be why her sister believes that you aren't good enough for her, but whatever the reason is, it doesn't matter. Your girlfriend chooses who she wants to be with and her sister will have to face the reality that she has picked you and not anyone else to her satisfaction.

Listen, you don't need to stand up to your girlfriend's sister as if you are her hero. This is her family, and if someone in her family is messing with you both as a couple, then it is your girlfriend's job to handle that because it's her sister, not yours.

My suggestion would be that everytime she makes a comment about you or her being together, walk away or leave the room. When your girlfriend's sister is trying to hook her up with another guy, your girlfriend needs to tell her to back off and leave. It is her job to show her that she is with you and that is not her choice. So maybe you should talk to your girlfriend more about handling this situation and let her know that you are really disturbed by the way she's been taking her sister's actions.

-TheTeenGirl

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