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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!
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I asked a question about a month ago about my situation with an ex-boyfriend who I became pregnant for, and then lost the baby. (http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=421121)
Not long after, he called and apologized for everything, and gave me his side of the story. I finally showed him ultrasound pictures and he saw how depressed I had become, and after hearing it from soo many people he believes me. He says he would have been there for us, which I believe, and we are now friends. He's helping me deal with my loss.
But the last time we talked, he asked about getting a second chance. I don't want him to think I'm this easy to get back, but at the same time we've been through so much, and I think he's learned his lesson. I still care about him, not only because he's the father of my child, but I care about him as a person.
I told him if I did give him a second chance, it would be a long time from now because I'm not ready right now after what I went through. Do you think he deserves a second chance? I need an outsider's opinion on this. Thanks!
First off, terribly sorry about your loss. I personally agree with the other advicenator, he doesn't deserve a second chance, but it truly is your decision. And, I read your other question and that was rude how he treated you. Have you been to a doctor to clarify if you actually have Depression? Deffinitly don't start the relationship off quickly, like you said, be friends for a while. And, if you know you can trust him again, then you are the only one to make the decision of going back out with him.Be sure, that if your ever in this sitation again, he won't leave you. As for that guy who kind of lead him to think you weren't having his baby, well, seems to me that your ex is easily cornered into a type of peer pressure. This type of peer pressure makes him think what other people say is true. Which isn't good at all.Maybe look to find someone else, who makes you feel happy and not "depressed" Good luck love, Hope I helped!
-Brina
(Rating: 5) thank you so much!