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Q: A couple weeks ago, I broke up with my boyfriend, because I cheated on him, and things were getting bad. We would fight all the time, and constantly jump down each other's throats. That was an almost 11 month relationship. I really regret cheating on him, and lying to him about it, and I absolutely regret dumping him, because now I can't get him back. He kinda made me mad, because 3 days after the break up, he already had a new girlfriend. But, that's not what this is about.

I have a boyfriend now, and we've been going out since the 26th of April. But, for the past few days, all I've been thinking about is my ex, and everytime I see him, or think about him, I cry, or I go insane. I can't even breathe when I cry because I'm crying so hard. It's gotten to be really depressing, and since the break up, I've been cutting, and now I've got an eating disorder. I really don't know what to do, because I love my boyfriend, but somehow, I'm still in love with my ex.

I don't know what I'm gonna do, because I wanna tell my ex, but I can't, because I don't know how to word it, or if he'll understand. He probably wouldn't believe me anyways. Any suggestions?

When you find that you aren't over your ex, then you should end things with this new boyfriend and give yourself a lot more space to get over him before you begin dating again.

A lot of people make the common mistake of dating someone right after they get out of a relationship because they think it will make them lose feelings and forget about that previous person. But sadly, it's not that easy.

But obviously this is more than a break-up problem. You are cutting and have depression and that has made you have to repeat the 9th grade. This definetly needs to be brought to your parent's or someone's attention immediatly. Having depression is way hard enough, but when you are going through a break-up, it's makes it way harder to deal with.

What you need to worry about is repairing yourself and not what's going on with this old boyfriend. To me, it sounds like he's moved on to a new girl and I honestly think you did the right thing by ending it because of constant fighting. So when you feel regretful about breaking up with him, remind yourself that you'd be going through the same thing all over again and that you can move on without him and you really can. Everyone has to go through long and tough break-ups and they get through it.

You will need a ton of support to do better in your school and have support for your depression and cutting problem. This is a way bigger problem than just a guy you can't get over. Your depression is the root to all of these problems. I'm not sure why you cheated on this boyfriend, but you have to learn from that instead of hating yourself for it. It's more important to know that it won't happen again and forgiving yourself than being full of hate and regret.

In times where you feel really upset and lonely, it's ok to cry and talk to someone about what you are thinking about and feeling. Your problems seem to be at a point where you can't handle it by yourself and who can anyway?

-TheTeenGirl

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