Gender:
FemaleLocation:
USAOccupation:
College StudentAge:
20Member Since:
March 28, 2006Answers:
326Last Update:
July 29, 2006Visitors:
27471Favorite Columnists
karenR
Lalagurl
BlondBritBrit
xO_b_r_i_a_n_a_Ox
kristen22
TheTeenGirl
xoMarisox
EarthMother
loverly
Main Categories:
Love Life
Friendship
Colleges & Universities
View All
about
Hey everyone! My name is Kristen, I'm 20 and I'm a college junior studying pharmacy. I've been blessed with a really good life, and part of the reason for that is because I've learned to see GOOD in everything that happens to me. I love giving advice, and I've been told that I do a good job at it, but I'll let you decide! Feel free to ask me anything... don't be shy, that's why I'm here. I've been through a lot... moving from one country to another, leaving and finding new friends, break ups, boys, middle school, high school, college, self esteem issues... pretty much most things that people need help with.
I usually spend a good amount of time answering your questions, so I would really appreciate it if you leave me an honest rating along with some feedback (good or bad!) It really does help me improve my advice... and in the end, that's good for YOU! Talk to ya soon! :)
advice
I RATE 5s. Im 14/f and I have a lot of small problems that I can't discuss with my friends. Well.. I can, but they have problems of their own to deal with. Even when they tell me their problems, sometimes I freak out that night- not because of their problem, just from too much negativity in my life. Sometimes I really want to cut... but I hate blood, so I can never go through with it. I think I might give out a "i have no problems" kind of vibe. I don't show up as an emotional person cus I don't want people to see that. I don't have THAT many problems,its just things build up inside me. I have no one to talk to about issues- I won't be talking to my parents about them, so please don't give that advice. I also have major trust issues because of most of my friends during elementry school. So if I do tell my friends something, I end up freaking out that night thinking they will tell someone. I'm not emo, I dont dress it, act like it, or any of that. I'm just sad on the inside. Most of my sadness lately is caused of loss of control over my life. I REALLY like this guy and he has a gf... but theres nothing i can do about it. My grades are going down and theres not much I can do to change them... stuff like that.
Thanks SO much. Sorry it was so long.
-anomynous-
hey! ok first of all, im really glad that you're not cutting because that only conceals your problems for a little bit of time, and then adds on another problem on top of them all! the reason people cut anyway is because they hold so much pain inside, that they hurt themselves physically in order to focus on that pain and forget about their emotional pain. it doesn't work in the long run! what you need to do is talk to someone! ok so you don't want to tell your friends or your parents, but there are plenty of other people.
you can go to your school councelor as many times as you need and talk to her/him... that's why they're there! just tell them you want to keep this between you and them, and they will not tell a single person! they're not allowed to!
if that's not an option that you like, then you can always just come on this website and discuss your problems with people here... even if they are small problems! it doesn't matter, everyone will see your problem and try and make you look at it a different way, and make it easier for you to deal with it! or you can call one of the many teen hotlines... they are free and confidential, and you can find many by just searching on google for one!
what im trying to say is that you HAVE to talk to someone about your problems and let them out! you can't keep them bottled up inside because they will just add and make you snap! just try talking about your problems and you will see how much easier things will become. you'll be able to see that your problems are really not that bad, and that things can be much much worse. life is not easy... it's a struggle, but as soon as you learn how to deal with all the small problems that come along the way, you will be SO happy and have complete control! :) good luck and don't hesitate to ask for more advice if you need it!
(Rating: 5) thank you so much for all the advice. By the way, Im the same girl that asked the modeling question a little while ago.