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Q: ok so ive known this one girl, well call her edna, for pretty much my whole life. shes my neighbor and we became friends like just *neighbor friends* not really at school, but in like third or 4th..or 5th grade she started hanging out with my friends and i and everything. it was ok like we all had fun together but in the last couple years shes gotten really weird and annoying and mean. for example, she has this really weird laugh..yeah i sound really mean i think but im not even kidding..ok so her nose goes up and shell be trying to flirt with a guy and theyll like turn away when they hear her laugh and its embarrasing becasye shes like wierd and were friends with her. then shell like dis-include herself..yeah i just made up that word...but shell like leave herself out and then get all mad for us not talking to her when well like say something and shell shrug and act like shes all mad at us and then blame us for being bad friends. its like i mean i dont want to be friends with her but i dont know how to not be friends with her...see we tried letting her go earlier this year..well she tried not being friends with us cuz she says we made new friends or whatever..whole different story..but she came crying back to us and i regret it. i dont know how to let her go because our paretns are really good friends and ugh its so complicated! what should i do? i mean i cant tell her shes weird and i cant be friends with her! and without me and my friends..she has no other friends. advice please!!! just on any ideas/opinions of what i should do =]

im so sorry this is so long =/

I don't take this girl as someone whose mean. I think that she's feeling insecure of herself. It sounds to me like a lot of people make fun of her because of her laugh and that makes her insecure.

So with this insecurity problem, she may be scared of being left out so she might be accusing you and your friends of leaving her out even though that may not be what's actually happening.

In other words, I don't think trying to get rid of her is the right answer. I think what can only help her best is if she stayed friends with all of you and you made her feel more included. I know you may not be leaving her out in the first place, but I think you should try setting things straight again and including her in a lot of fun things that you and your other friends are doing. What makes me think that this girl isn't so bad is the fact that she doesn't have that many friends other than you.

I think that you should try working things out with this girl, just think about it. If you hardly had friends, would you want to feel extra included with friends?

-TheTeenGirl

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