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I think I have depression, and I want to see a counsellor. I walked passed the room today but i couldn't go in, i just felt like i would be wasting their time and that I don't really need any counselling.

I have been feeling like thi for about 3 years, i used to self harm about 2 years ago but i got that under control - i still want to when i get wound up.

I often think about what it would be like when I'm dead, I wonder who would miss me, who wouldn't miss me.
A few months ago, I was going to commit suicide, i started to write a letter to my mum, but I couldn't finish it, I jut burst into tears.

I need someone to talk to. But I can't bring myself to walk into that room.
How can I overcome this?? Why can't i bring myself to walk into the room?

Please help me. x

hey... well i think the reason you can't get yourself to walk in the room is because you're afraid of what you might be told. you are afraid to hear that you are depressed, if that's what the councelor ends up telling you. tell yourself for the next couple of days that no matter what, even if you do have depression, things will be ok. you have to convince yourself that no matter what happens, everything will work out for the best. you've heard people say that the first step to solving a problem is recognizing that there is one. many people suffer from depression, and things are usually much better for them once they get help. you do want help, because if you didn't, you wouldn't even be thinking about talking to anyone. i applaud your decision not to take your life away. you may not recognize it now, but you do have a purpose on this earth... you are here for a reason. believe it or not, life would be different now and in the future for many people if you weren't here.

so just convince yourself that you need and want help, and that things will be ok. then rehearse a little bit what you want to say to the councelor... don't worry they have heard it all so they will know what to do and they won't think you're weird! they are there for that exact reason. once you know what you want to say, just go to the room and walk right in. go FAST... don't walk slow or think or seond guess yourself. just walk in and sit down as fast as you can, and then let it all out.

if that doesn't work, then why not call the councelor and explain a litle bit to her over the phone. then make an appointment to see her. or email her. those might be easier option for you. once you let her know that there is a problem, she will make sure you come to her for help. or talk to your mom and get her to go with you.

good luck with everything and i hope i helped!! :) don't give up hope, everyone goes through hard times... it's all about how you handle it. you really can do anything you set your mind to... if you convince yourself that you can get through this, then you will put it behind you before you know it! i promise!! :)

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(Rating: 5) awww thankyou soo much. I'm nearly crying and i dont even no why.. thanks for your help x x x x
(like you said in the beginning, i have been telling myself that it will get better, that was 3 years ago and i still cant get through this)
thanks so much :) x x
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