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Hey everyone! My name is Kristen, I'm 20 and I'm a college junior studying pharmacy. I've been blessed with a really good life, and part of the reason for that is because I've learned to see GOOD in everything that happens to me. I love giving advice, and I've been told that I do a good job at it, but I'll let you decide! Feel free to ask me anything... don't be shy, that's why I'm here. I've been through a lot... moving from one country to another, leaving and finding new friends, break ups, boys, middle school, high school, college, self esteem issues... pretty much most things that people need help with.
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Ok guys...well you see...I think I might be pregnant....I haven't had my period since like Feb. so I'm pretty sure I am..but my problem is..that I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 19, and I really actually want this baby, because ya know if I was able to lay down and have unprotected sex..then I am able to take care of my baby...but, I'm just afraid that my mom is going to freak out and call the cops on my boyfriend and he is going to get thrown in jail because of the age difference. I'm so confused and I don't want an abortion and my boyfriend (whom I love) to be in jail...so, if any one has any advice..it is GREATLY appreciated!!!!
hey! well the best thing you can do is first get tested and see if you are actually pregnant... because let's face it, at 15, periods can be irregular (especially if you started yours recently within a year or 2)! Get a home pregnancy test and see what it says... they are around 15 bucks or so, but you need to KNOW!! If you are not pregnant, then that's good. But if it turns out that you are, then you have to sit your mom down and talk to her! If you intend on having the baby, then she will obviously know about it... and I believe you can't get an abortion in most states without your parents' agreement until you are 18 (i am pretty sure about this). So basically, no matter what, if you are pregnant your mom will find out! That is why it's important to sit down with her and talk it over calmly... because if you hide it from her, and she has to find out suddenly, then she will flip out even more. Sit down with her one day when she is in a good mood and say something like "mom, i have to talk to you about something imporant, but i want you to promise me not to get mad and do anything in the spur of the moment, because things are already hard and i don't want them to get harder." Basically get her ready for the news, before you tell her. Chances are she will get mad and yell, but don't fight with her... just let her get it all out, and then you can continue to talk. If she threatens to get your bf in jail, explain to her that this was not all his fault, and you are just as guilty as he is, etc!
But make sure to get a test and only have this talk with your mom if you ARE pregnant. Otherwise, if you talk to her about it and it turns out that you are not pregnant, you might get her mad over nothing, and get your bf into trouble as well. And in the future, make sure to have protected sex!! condoms, birth control pills, shots, patches, etc... you get the point! there are too many effective methods, so why risk getting pregnant at such a young age!? hope that helps, and good luck!
(Rating: 5) Thanx I appreciate the advice and the fact that you weren't negative and rude about anything!!!