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Ok, so me and this guy were going out, and I mean everything seemed pretty good. We both loved each other, or at least I thought he loved me. But then we broke up, because he said that it felt weird, and that our love felt like we shouldnt be together now, but in the future. And he told me that he was raelly messed up in the head about this whole thing, as was I. So we broke up, and we hadnt talked for a few days, then I find out he already has a g/f and he's already had relationships with her before. So, I've been having a difficlut time letting go of him, because I really do love him, and I want him. But EVERYTHING, and I mean everything reminds me of him. And so its sorta difficult to let go, when everything reminds me of him. So what do you guys think I should do? Because right now, I am real confused about if I should let go, or just wait for him? And what are some good ways to let go of him? Like how am I supposed to do it, cus I've tried alot of ways, maybe I'm trying to let go to fast...Thanks for any help, I'll rate 5's for all answers.

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Alright hun, if there is anyone who has been through it all when it comes to love it is me. I've had a similiar thing happen, and it is the worst thing in the world. My bf of 8 months dumped me the day after prom because "things were hard between us" and he "needed time to think and focus on school". I cried my eyes out for days on end, and couldn't stop thinking about him. I knew he had dumped me for another girl. I wasn't stupid. And I was right. The very next day, he started dating one of his friends sisters. That hurt me so much, not to mention he talked shit about me after that, saying all these things that never happened to make me look bad, and to make him feel better about breaking up with me, since he knew that he really had no real good reason for doing what he did to me in the first place. Well after two weeks he cried to get me back. I tried getting over him and I thought I was, but when he came back, I took him back, because I loved him so much. It has been hard at times, but my advice to you, is steer clear of this guy. He dumped you for another girl. He might have tried to come up with other reasons why he dumped you, but in reality it was for this other girl. I think two things might've happened. I think he really liked you but maybe he was still in love with this other girl. I think that is true, since they have been together in the past. I think you might have been a rebound girl. That is the worst thing in the world, because you feel used and you feel like he never even cared about you. But I think he did. I believe this girl came back in his life, and begged to be back with him. He remembered how they used to be and got back with her, not even considering you and him, and the feelings you guys have for eachother. It is best for you to move on. Always, ALWAYS remember that all pain heals with time. Never forget that. You love him now, but sooner or later someone new and better will come along and you will realize why all this happened. Love is good and bad, and you learn from it. Never wish you and him were never together, because everything happens for a reason. It is totally true. For right now focus on things you didn't get to do while you guys were together. And definently hang out with friends that will take up your time and make you feel better. A friend that will be there when you need to talk, but will also be there to take your mind off of it, and party with you, go to the movies with you, and give you the opportunity to hang out with new, fun people. Your single now, so don't be so upset. You can do anything you want with no bf holding you back! It's not that bad. Sometimes it will hurt seeing other people's relationships and wishing you still had him, but no relationship is perfect and remember that. Know that he will someday regret what he did to you and realize he really loved you, even though he is choosing to forget that right now. Don't be there for him to come crying back to you. He has done his damage so do yours! Show him that he hasn't broken you. Start trying new, exciting things. Do you like to dance? Try taking dance classes, or yoga. Like to swim and tan? Go swimming or tanning alot and improve your self esteem. Go shopping. New things and a new look will make you feel alot better, because you are starting over new. So why not rejuvinate yourself with a new, hot look. You will feel better, and it will boost your confidence making you appear and feel happy, exciting, and outgoing, which will draw people to want to get to know you. So when that guy finally looks at you and thinks, "Damn, what was I thinking?" you can smile at him and think, "Yea, I don't need you. You were fun when we were together, but I am so much better without you. Thanks for the good times though. Have fun with your new girl." Now the only one feeling sad and depressed now won't be you. Hope I helped. If you need anymore advice note my inbox. Good luck hun, and keep your chin. Everything gets better in time.
~Sherah

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