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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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I've been going out with this kid for about a week and a half now. He has a very bad reputation for smoking alot, drug use, getting in fights and stealing things. Everyone is scared of him so they don't know his good side. Actually he is very nice, considerate, sweet and ready for commitment.

Sometimes he lies to impress me though. Just one example, he told me he is 100 percent Irish but when I said I was Italian, he said he was 50% Irish and 50% Italian. He also buys me lots of jewelry to impress me I guess, but he doesn't need to.

I guess I'm just kind of shocked. But if he really feels like he has to be like that to keep me, I'm not sure if I actually want to keep dating him. This happened with all my previous boyfriends because I figure out their flaws as I get to know them and I start to drift away.

So Is he worth my time? Is it just that I have really high expectations for a guy?

Please Help!

He might be scared that you will start to look at him in the same way that everyone else does, so he tries impressing you so you won't be scared of him. He just might be insecure because of the reputation he has.

Is he worth your time? That's up to you to decide. You can try talking to him about it, calmly. You can tell him that he doesn't need to try to impress you; That you like him for who he is.

The only thing I would be iffy about is the drug use and all of that.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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