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Q: when it comes to guys im way behind. im not so good at handling them. a lot of guys have approached me and like me.. but i seem to always turn them down.. not because i dont like them, but because im scared. theres only one guy ive ever trusted and he has a girlfriend. he said if he was single hed go out with me in a second. which is why i think i turn guys down. im scared that if i get into a commitment with a guy.. when the guy i really like(the one with the girlfriend) is single ill be taken. im also scared because my parents are super strict and i would have to hide a boyfriend if i had one. im 16 years old btw. ahh i dont know what to do. im missing out and i want it to stop. any advice?
Okay, about the guy that you like, He is going out with someone. Let him go. He is with someone else, and you can't let your life waste away just waiting for him. No person should put their happiness after anything. Okay, so there is the occasional "have to" but other than that, nope! Don't let this guy take over your life! He went for another girl, obviously you weren't the first choice. He is a jerk that wants you because you are cute or sweet. Don't wait forever. You can wait but not too long, that will tell him that you would do anything just to have him. That way he could take advantage of you and you wouldn't even bat an eye. Don't disrespect yourself, it isn't right!

Now you said that you are shy around boys. Okay, so it might be the other guy, but it also might not. There is nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend. Just because you don't doesn't make you a bad person or something. Don't spend too much time on this, okay? If you find a guy cute and he finds you the same, give him a chance. Don't give this other guy a second thought. Turning guys off just because you like another guy just totally beets the purpose. Take a chance, get your heart broken once....it won't kill ya, it might even help ya. I hope that I helped and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate if you don't want to, but it would be nice. Thanks!

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Ok, so I haven't been on in a while and I'm just starting to get back to where I can give advice again. I had a rough spot there and I just couldn't give advice without seeming rude, so I decided to take a break. My real name is Shannon and I live in Utah. I am 15 and I love animals and friends. I love to act and know a bit about those kinds of things. I would love to help you out and hope that I can. But there is one thing, you have to ask a question for me to answer! Just kidding. Hope you have a great day!

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