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Q: So I'm 14/f and one of my friend's friend's cousin added me on msn about 3 months now. I don't talk to him alot and wen I do I find myself in this state: I start to flir with him and it gets to the point where he just keeps telling me how hott I am and stuff and then we don't talk for 5-7 days and between that time I really get out of it. Then wen I talk to him again the same thing happens. BTW...This boy is no prince charming (he's relly not hot or cute) and he's 15. So last night I was flirting with him like major! I mean we were talking bout tongue wrestling and he coming to my house. It's really not love cause it feels more like lust. I really enjoy talking to him and maybe flirting with him isn't the worst idea I ever had...but I really think it might somehow get serious and I spoil my name a reputation and esp. since his cousin is a relly gud friend of mind! Do you think he's using me because I'm pretty and he's not? And what do you think it is...an infatuation or just those once in a blue moon things..n if i like flirting with him (which I do) should I continue or will I give him a bad idea of what I think of him?

well, if you did like him then it would be okay to continue to flirt with him, but you don't, so I don't think that you should. You will continue to lead him to thinking that you like him and then it will just break his heart if/when you tell him that you don't. It is okay that you like flirting with him, that is just normal, but if he likes you, and it sounds like he does, then he will pursue you, and that might go a little ugly. In a way, no, I don't think that he is using you. I just think that he likes you. just remember that you don't want to hurt him. I hope that i helped and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate if you don't want to but it would be nice if you did. thanks!

Rating: 5

Thanks alot. Yeah I think I'll stop because he's just not my type and I don't want to hurt him. Thanks anyhow!

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Ok, so I haven't been on in a while and I'm just starting to get back to where I can give advice again. I had a rough spot there and I just couldn't give advice without seeming rude, so I decided to take a break. My real name is Shannon and I live in Utah. I am 15 and I love animals and friends. I love to act and know a bit about those kinds of things. I would love to help you out and hope that I can. But there is one thing, you have to ask a question for me to answer! Just kidding. Hope you have a great day!