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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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Im a girl, and im 16 years old. okay, a few months ago, i did stuff with this guy called Bryan. We did stuff several times at different parties. Hed be nice to me on the night, but after that, like at school and stuff, hed just kinda ignore me. but it wasnt so bad, hed speak on msn. sometimes i wondered if he was using me, so i tried talking to him about it, and he told me it was fine and he wasnt using me. But i feel used. WE havent done anything in a while as hes starting being a dick to me, and more ignorant than ever. he also started trying it on with other girls. but it still really hurts. My friends say i was being used. It feels horrible, how he just dropped me like that. And now i think i like bryan, and cant stop thinking about him. even though i know its a waste of time, but i just wish he liked me, and i dont know what to do. ive tried talking to him but he either ignores me, or convinces me that IM wrong. He doesnt even seem to like me, even as just a friend, and always blanks me. Ive done nothing wrong...but basically he just doesnt care about my feelings and doesnt wanna know about anything to do with me.
i dont understand why im so different from anyone else. Im not jelous, im just hurt. He used to be so nice to me, and now hes evil to me. He talks to everyone else apart from me, and hes rude to my face and insulting, behind my back. Please help!

He was nice to you because you gave him what he wanted (sleeping with him). Now that he's gotten what he wanted, he dropped you like a bad habit. He's an idiot and it was horrible what he did.

Ignore him. Also, don't be mean to him or try to get revenge. You may think it will make you feel good at first, but that only shows him that you're still hung up on him.

Don't get a "rebound guy," either. Going out with a guy you have no feelings for just because of what Bryan did is disrespectful to the "rebound guy." It would lead him to think that you have feelings for him, and you don't. It would only break his heart and you don't want that to happen.

Don't sit around the house watching reruns of "Friends." That will only make you feel worse. Get support from friends. Do what you love. Take up a new hobby.

Learn from this. Make sure that you get to know a guy before you do anything with him.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much for your answer to my question. it made me see things more clearly!
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