I am a 20 yr old guy, people call me logical and i look at myself the same way. I have been told i give good advice so i thought i would give it a try. I can give advice on pretty much anything, frienship, dating, emotional problems, health problems, pretty much anything. i dont however take any interest in answering questions like what should i buy a green shirt or a blue shirt. serious problems only. I like to help people, its a good feeling when someone likes what you have told them. and that is why i do it.
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okay, so like, this is really weird. I have fantasies about doing things with my best friend...we'll say her name is Sadie... (i am totally sure I am NOT a lesbian), things like kissing and stuff. I really don't know what I should do about it. She already knows, we talked all night about this problem. She says she totally understands and she's not grossed out or anything. Is this normal? She is very pretty, and practically every boy that lays eyes on her is in love with her. I have another friend who is younger than me and actually does this stuff with her friends, but i don't feel comfortable doing anything with her. Everytime I am alone with sadie, I get that urge to want to do something. I have done that stuff tons of times before, but my parents always found out. One of the things is, I am really trying to be moral and clean. I really wanted to practice kissing, I am saving my first kiss with a guy, and I want it to be good. I want to do something with her more than I care about morals. I think it is kinda weird how I want to practice with her, but I know 100% that I'm not a lesbian, or bi. I don't have a crush on her. Can anyone explain to me how to deal with this, if it's normal, and what I should do about it? (by the way we never did anything together) I rate, PLEASE HELP ME!! (link)
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Alright first of all dont rate me if you feel like rating me low, i am giving my honest opinion. HAVING FEELING OR URGES FOR THE SAME SEX IS NOT I REPEAT NOT NORMAL, and however would tell you that is normal they themselves arent normal! you are very fortunate to not act on your urges, if ANYTHING go get urges with a guy its better than being tempted to kiss another girl. Dont you see what you are writing?! how does that sound "i am a girl and i want to kiss a girl" ok i am a guy mind you that was just an example. On one hand i am digusted and on the other hand glad not that what you do is any affect on me. Listen to me very carefully, you obviously have some serious major issues and you need to get help from a priest. Talk to any priest or pastor you know and talk to that person about the way you are feeling they can explain to you why it is wrong to act like you have been wanting to far better than i can. Feeling urges for the same sex is caused by too much time around girls and not enough around males, perhaps there is not even a male figure in your life? So do yourself a serious favor and follow my advice, you said yourself your not comfortable with this that should be your motivation to seek spiritual guidence. I Will guide you just ask.
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hey now, i just didn't know what to do. when we are teenagers, are hormones kind of screw with us, if you know what i mean. and i LOVE guys, and guys love me back. i do NOT have a crush on her, or think, "wow, she is so sexy" or anything. i just get these stupid little urges. i am glad tho that i got some info from a guys point of view. i have been through a lot and have been taken advantage of sexually when i was a little girl, and that still hurts really bad. i do thank you for giving you honest opinion, but i have had a rough day and i just realized, "if the people I love accept me, then that's enough for me". By the way, i am around a lot of boys, i have a lot of friends who are guys, and i do have a boyfriend by the way, i am saving my kiss for him.
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