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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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ok there was this boy,
and he is my best friend's ex boyfriend.
but she still has feelings for him.
but he broke up with her.
but first time I saw him I had a crush on him too. I didnt tell my best friend, I couldent do that to her! but he had a football game and they won. my friend went to go to the rest room after the game. and I waited on the bentaches the the boy came up to me and sat by me. he said hi. I thought my friend would say it was ok just to have a confersation. then so we talked. the bathroom was like a couple minnets away. then right when my friend came she saw me and him holding hands!
she got mad but after a week she forgave me. that friday we were planning to go to a party. and he was there. soon my friend decided to leave but it was his house and he told me he had to show me somthing. I told him no beacuse of what happened. he talked me into it. then it was his room and you know what happened next yes we had sex.
but now at school I see him and he smiles. I hate keeping this from her.
I think he really likes me but so do i. but my friend will hate me!!!!! what do I do!!!!!!!??

Friends before boys. Always. It's an unwritten rule.

I don't think you should try to be his girlfriend. Why? Because, number one, it will really not be considerate to your friend. She will probably be hurt. Number two, you had sex with him! You betrayed your friend once already; getting together with him will hurt her more.

About the sex thing, I'd tell her. Friends are supposed to be honest with one another. If you don't tell her, there is a possibility that she could find out from someone else, and that would be much worse than if you told her yourself.

If you choose to tell her, make sure to be calm and tell her when you two are alone and she isn't in a bad mood. Tell her how sorry you are and that you will never do anything like that again (and stick to your promise).

I'll be 110% honest with you; she probably will be more than just a little upset. If she got that mad that you were holding hands with him, then she'll probably be a lot more mad at this situation. There is a possibility that she might not trust you again, or she might stop being friends with you. I'm not saying it is positive that this will happen, but anything is possible. Trust is easy to lose and hard to gain back.
I'm not trying to be negative, I just wanted to be honest with you.

But you made the decision to have sex with him. You could have backed out, but you didn't. You know that your friend has feelings for him. You have suffer the consequences for your actions, good or bad. Learn from this situation.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders

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