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Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a month, on Decemeber 15. We are always together, and I think that I love him. I know it's like, oh your a child you don't know what love is, but I really do believe that I am in love. We were laying on my bed on each other and I was thinking about how I love him, and I was about to tell him.. I asked him what he was thinking about, and he said, "I love you." It was like so strange though because I was just about to say the exact same thing, but anyways.. Wow, totally off topic. I'm 13, and whenever we are making out.. We get a little too into it, I suppose. Where it gets to the point when it's "dry sex", or having sex with your clothes on.. Yes, I know it's weird.. But, I feel the erge to want to have sex with him, and go farther, sexually. I am only in 7th grade, so of course I don't want to go that far.. All I have done with any guy is "feel up", because I refuse to go farther.. He was trying to finger me and I wouldn't let him. Basically, I am trying to ask..

Would it be wrong if I had sex with him?
I don't think I am ready, at all.
I could be wrong? Maybe, I am.
But - I am scared that next time we hook up that it will go a little too far.
And it's not like a 10 second hook up, it's more like 10 minutes.
Really, how far is "too far"?
I believe feel up is far enough for 7th grade.
But I'd love your views.
if you even have a doubt that you are not ready for it dont do it becasue beign vcery sexual for things you think you want but in the end it tears you up emotionally it can make you feel very uncomfortabel and if you liek this guy enough i dont think you would want to risk these feelings that can tear someoen up so much inside hope i helped good luck

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my name is lindsey i am 13 years old i am realy into my music and i like to help ppl mostly in the love life catagory answer every question that i have a reasonable honest good answer that will help. some of my favorit bands are the all american rejects the used my chemical romacne fall out boy simple plan some the killers blink 182 green day. i have a 19 and 16 yr old brothers they are very hard to deal with i have soem girl friends but most of them are guy friends that is when i am most comfortable most of the time. i love to write mostly poetry and i love to dance i am a cheerleader but i am not a prep or anything not tryign to stero type but that is what ppl do to me so yea i am not the stero typical cheerleader im not in it to be peppy i just do it for one thing only i LOVE to dance. im not into rap but i have to be into it a little becasue it is very good dance music if i had to pick a fovorite rap star it would be eminem (sorry bad at spelling) because of the things he raps about real life real situation im not for fakeness the whole all rap about or anything about sex,and drugs personaly i just think that there is alout more to life to enjoy and to pay attention too.

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