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My bf didn't kiss me for a long time because he was nervous and didn't want to do anything wrong. We finally did, and it was great since I care about him but otherwise, I didn't really like it. I don't really know how to describe what I didn't like. He opens mouths mouth too much and it's slobbery and wet. Kind of passionate, but wiping off my mouth afterward is definetly not. It reminds he of getting licked by a dog or something. Yuck... I don't know what to do because we've kissed several times since that and they all seem the same. Should I say anything? I don't want to hurt his feelings because I know how scared he is of doing "wrong". Please help!!! I care about him so I don't want kissing, a display of affection, to be what gives us problems. That just seems silly to me. (link)
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Hi There,
Don't be afraid of your shyness, it's only natural to feel self-aware when it comes to something like kissing. And chances are this is what's holding your boyfriend back as well. You've been together for a long time, after all, and so if this feels like a natural step then it's important you let him know.
There are two ways for you to approach this. Firstly, you could try speaking up at a good time. If you're not happy about taking a direct approach, it's worth turning the question away from a 'snog me!' to mentioning it might be fun to explore a different kind of kiss. This way, you're stating a wish without putting him under pressure. If he's keen, you'll soon know about it.
Alternatively, however, you might find it's easier to simply expand your current kissing technique. If you're limited to a lip nuzzle, try gently probing with your tongue and just see how he responds. Hopefully, you'll get the snog you want in no time, and if not then use the opportunity to talk about your feelings for each other.
Sometimes, it can take a toe-curling moment such as this to establish honesty in a relationship. It's something that takes a little courage, but whatever happens you're guaranteed to look back knowing you did the right thing.
Goodluck
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Awesome advice; I loved it. Real helpful! Thanx!
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