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The guy that I'm seeing is a real pig. He has a beer guy because he'll go out drinking all the time with his friends and down 12 beers. He farts all the time and has bad breath and body odor. He has red veigns on his nose from all his drinking. Also he dresses like he's thin, he'll wear tight jeans and t shirts but it looks ridicuous because he's about 30 pounds overweight.
It's really hard for me to get turned on by him. It's not just the way he looks sometimes he can be a real jerk. The last straw was when I phoned him on his cell on he told me to only phone him if it was after 6.
I want to dump him but I don't know how to go about it. Should I tell him that his appearance turns me off or would that be too mean? (link)
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Hi There,
Well there are a few options you could chooses from.
Face to Face
Upside: Shows respect, honesty, understanding. Good chance of staying friends, too.
Downside:Depending on the dumpee, you may be faced with tears or tantrums. They also might try and change your mind.
Over the phone
Upside: If you're lucky, you'll get the answer machine. No chance of being physically assaulted. You also won't have to see the sad, sad look in their eyes as you break the news.
Downside: If you were relying on the answer machine, there's always the chance they may pick up before you've finished. Also the problem of them shouting or weeping down the line.
By post
Upside: No chance of fluffing your words, or losing your bottle.
Downside: Letter can be shown to friends and used as evidence against you. Lengthens the whole process as you wait for them to receive your message.
By email
Upside: It's swift and sure, and there's no room for misinterpretation.
Downside: It's as cold and heartless as the technology itself. Also risk getting into an email dialogue about the whole thing.
By friend
Upside: All you have to do is relax and wait for your mate to deliver the news
Downside: You'll be classed as a coward until the day you die. Also could backfire if that so-called-friend of yours takes advantage of the situation. A sympathetic hug can lead to anything.
By ignoring the person altogether
Upside: Involves least amount of effort. Just a question of holding your nerve.
Downside: Again, you'll be labelled a coward. Creates most amount of grief and can go on for a long, long time. Just think how you would feel in their shoes.
By getting off with someone else
Upside: Sends out clear message.
Downside: There goes your credibility. You're risking a socially-humiliating situation and serious retribution from the ex.
So there are a few you could choose from so have a think and be brave
Goodluck
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Hi there, thankyou for the advice, it was awsome. I think I'm going to do it over the phone!
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