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I am really not shy but i find it hard to start conversations with guys. SOmeone picked me up from the movies and i was quiet the whole time. Is their a strategy i could use or something to help me think of topics? PLease help its so akward!
Its okay hun, everybody goes through this. I'm incredibly nervous when I first hang out with someone especailly when I am on a date. So try to smile alot and be yourself. It is natural to be nervous, extra shy, and unsure about what to talk about. During the movie, if he bought you popcorn you could sit it in his lap so you have to sit closer to him to be able to eat it. After the movie, talk about the movie, your favorite scenes, and as that conversation evolves you guys can start talking about other topics. What is his favorite band? What kind of movies does he generally like? After he responds, don't sit there and say something like, "Cool..." It seems like you are very uninterested in what he had to say. Instead start talking about what you love as well. Even add a little funny story or something that will tell him a little more about you. The more you guys talk, the easier it will be for you to feel comfortable around him. Don't have too much expectations of the night. And do not obsess about how nervous you are going to be. Even talk to yourself in your mirror at home, to come up with ideas of what to say, and what you will do when asked a question. It seems silly but it can actually really help. Also, if you notice that you are acting nervous and not talking, force yourself to talk. Tell yourself you MUST talk to him. Don't worry about anything. Just be yourself and relax. I hope I helped. ~Sherah
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