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My real name is Christiana, but most people call me "Nina". I am 18 going on 19. I enjoy helping people--just not when they are still in middle school and asking about love or sex. I do alot of painting on canvas, creative writing, reading, and listening to music. I'm pretty mellow. I love sci fi and fantasy based books and movies. I love medieval history--really I like most history but sometimes I wish I could live in a time period that didn't deal with so many technological complexities. I guess you could say I love the simple things in life...advice
I'm 17. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now. He's 24, and things couldn't be better. One problem. He's married to another woman. I had NO idea he was married when we got together 4 months ago. Had I known then what I know now, I wouldn't have ever kept up contact with him. So, I know, but he doesn't know I know. And I'm guessing the wife has NO idea about his infedility. I've known this for about two weeks. I taped us "in the act", in case I ever needed proof.
Question is: how should I go about handling this?
Should I bring it up to HIM first?
Should I somehow tell his WIFE? And if you think I should do that, in what form of communication do you think would be best?
Do you think I should just end the relationship suddenly without mentioning it to him, and then stay the hell away, or what?
I would like to know if MY significant other were up to no good. I know it's not so much my business, but I would have trouble living with myself knowing I kept such a drastic secret from a woman who has every right to know. :(
Can you really trust a guy that wouldn't even tell you he's married? You should inform his wife that hes been seeing you...its not fair for her to be left in the dark about it. Depending on how close you are to eighteen maybe you should wait a little longer to tell anyone. You definitely need to hint around the subject when talking to this guy see what he says.
-Nina
(Rating: 5) Thank you sooo much for your response!! I really apreciate it, and I will definitely think about your contribution!! :)