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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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im 13 and a girl and this year i actually feel ready for sex. is that normal at this age? is there something wrong with me? i know a guy that is willing to have sex with me, should i have sex? if i do should i tell my parents?
**sexy_gal_1992**

Unless you are ready to have a baby, you aren't ready for sex. You can't raise a baby at 13; I don't care how mature and ready you think you are. It costs a lot of money to raise a child (clothes, food, bottles, crib, toys... etc.).

13 is way too young to have sex. Just because you're a teenager doesn't magically make you mature. I'm not saying you're immature. What I'm saying is that just because you're a teen, that doesn't make you any more mature (emotionally) than you were when you were 12.
Plus, you act like it's a casual thing when you say:
"i know a guy that is willing to have sex with me, should i have sex?"
You should ONLY have sex with someone you LOVE. Sex is a big deal, and it shouldn't be done casually. Just because a guy wants to have sex with you, doesn't mean you should have sex with him.

Besides, the risks are there. STD's, HIV/AIDS, and pregnancy. You don't want an STD because some stay with you for a very, very long time. You DEFINITELY don't want HIV/AIDS, and you don't want to get pregnant, as I said in the first paragraph. JUST BECAUSE a guy says "I don't have HIV/AIDS or STD's" means nothing. He might not even know.

You might have sexual thoughts and/or feelings, which is normal at this age because you're going through puberty, but that doesn't mean you're ready for sex.

Bottom line is, don't do it. I think that you should wait.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders

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