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There's this boy that I've known ever since 5th grade (we are in 9th grade) we are very close besides the fact that I NEVER SPENT TIME WITH HIM BESIDES SCHOOL!!! Yea we would talk on the phone, text and stuff but, I would LOVE to go somewhere with him one day but there are 2 problems:
1.) I am afraid that if I am alone with him, he might put the moves on me and we might have sex! (Only a kiss will do)
2.) I am afraid that if I go to the movies with him or something, that he might try and play me by taking me somewhere far, leaving me alone or embarrassing me.
What can I do to overcome my shyness and how do I explain to him that I am shy?
P.S. I gave him some excuses! I don't want to seem like a liar or that I don't want to be with him because I DO! it would be like a DATE or something.. My FIRST date! (link)
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You've just got first date nerves! Think this through- you've known him since 5th grade and you know he's a good guy otherwise you wouldn't be interested in him. If you are alone with him and he tries to have sex with you (which i doubt) you do have a choice in the matter! You're talking as if you have to go along with whatever he says which is completely untrue. If this happens you need to make it clear that thats not something you want to do and he should understand this. You're worried that he's going to leave you alone or embarrass you right? If he's going to go on a date with you that means he wants to be with you- nobody forced him- it's actually what he wants to do. Therefore how likely is it that he's going to abandon or embarrass you? It's just not going to happen like that!!
However after all this, I can understand that you're still going to feel shy and it certainly wouldn't hurt to let him know this. Maybe in the middle of a text conversation you could tell him in a laid back sort of way that you're feeling really shy about it all. That you're really looking forward to being with him it's just that you feel shy. He'll understand and you'll feel better about it all.
To overcome your shyness the best thing you need to do is just take a deep breath and go on the date. You'll realise that it's not as bad as you thought- in fact you're going to really enjoy yourself!! Have faith in the fact that this is a nice guy and you have nothing to worry about. Good luck
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