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sorry this is long, and full of profanities, but i seriously cant take it anymore.
hey i dont know who is going to be up at 10 oclock on a Sunday, but of course i am. You see, i really hate my dad. Time after time he makes me so pissed off and annoyed at him, and i just cannot stand it. Like this morning, he wakes me up at 8 30 to go to church, and then he fucking leaves without me because i "wasnt ready!" Now i have to go by myself and after church i was supposed to have plans with my friend i havent seen in 2 months and i cant even do that! This morning i was writing an away message and he tells my little sister to turn off the computer because i was on for too long and i was "ignoring him" so she turns it off! like wtf? so i slam in the keyboard drawer because i was so pissed off, and it fucking broke! now im in trouble for breaking the keyboard, and not going to mass. Finally, my dad is angry at me because i bought too many songs on iTunes. The bill was 20 dollars.
Who cares?! 20 bucks is not a lot for buying music that me and my brother listen too, and this doesnt even happen every month! Usually its like 5 bucks!
You may think im being like stuck up or bratty over this, but this is how it is for me day after day. I hate my dad and im always mad at him and i wish he would leave my mom so i wouldnt have to deal with him anymore. I go to a very hard high school, and i manage to get A's and B's so i think he should be damn proud of that. can anyone help me? how can i work things out with my dad?
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Hi There,
My heart goes out to you and i understand how painful and frustrating all this must be to you. Our parents love us, each in their way. The problem is that some parents are over critical, they push their kids too hard and expect too much so that their kids fall short in their expectations. Your parents are not able to communicate properly with you; they are over critical and forget to praise you, perhaps thinking that this way you'd achieve more. They fail to see however, what a negative effect
this is having on you.
Now listen to me carefully. You just need to stay positive, believe in yourself, prevent anyone or anything from bringing you
down. Shut out their negative remarks. Ignore them. Take pride in the things you are good at, immerse yourself in your hobbies and little talents, enjoy your friendships and good reltionships with people. Keep a diary and pour
in it all the pain away, ventall the frustration.
Try complaining to a friend about things when
you feel things are overwhelming. Try another councellor and another till you find one you feel comfortable with. Try annoymous help hotlines, where you can complain to someone and just get it out of your system.
Also try talking to a relative you are close to, or perhaps one of your parents' friends. Explain the situation to him/her, and maybe they could talk to your parents about going easy on you a bit.Just keep yourself busy in your own world and surround yourself by friends and people who make you feel good about yourself. Keep your chin up and rise above any negativity. Answer your parents remarks by calmly saying,"Dad please don't do this to me...it hurts my feelings and
i have done nothing to deserve it."
Hopefully, gradually your parents will see what they are doing and stop.
Take care of yourself and love yourself.
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THANK YOUUUU ! you were the only person who actually tried to help, not just put more pressure on me! lol
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