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I recently met this guy and we're now dating. We aren't exactly what you would call the cutest couple because well, some people don't believe we belong each other. Those some people being my friends.
I'm what you could call the preppy high school cheerleader that hangs out with other preppy cheerleaders/jocks.
He is...well I'm not sure what he is. When you look at him you think oh, just another punkish looking emo druggy kid. Which is what my friends think. But, he really isn't. He did voluntarily dye his hair black and has an eye brow and lip piercing. Along with another one that is below the belt that I haven't seen yet ;P.
But anyway, back to the point. He's a sXe(straightedge). If you don't know what that is, it means that he doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs and doesn't believe in casual sex.
I was recently involved in an accident. The accident should have never happened because we'll the driver and I were drinking. Fortunately, I'm still alive. And because of the accident I've decided not to drink anymore. (I met my bf after my accident).
My friends think that my bf is BS and that he's just kidding himself. And obviously, do not like him. His friends and I get along fine and he doesn't mind my friends, except for the fact that they don't like him. What should I do?
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Hi There,
Sometimes it's easier to seethe in silence when someone makes you cringe, but that doesn't solve the issue. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line once more and you explode right in front of them - which doesn't solve anything.
Whatever your boyfriend has done to make you feel so awkward, it's always wise to pick a good time to talk - preferably when you're feeling calm and there's nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
Your aim here is to encourage this person to think about things from your point of view, without leaving them feeling shame-faced. If your mate can see the upset they've caused for themselves, they'll be more likely to change their behaviour.
Nobody likes to feel as if they're being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don't lay into them - it'll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
You can't expect them to shape up straight away, especially if you're both feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
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