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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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I was the one who wrote about my best friend carly. well something bad happened. It all started yesterday when we were chatting online. Her ex came on and he told her that he liked me and then she told me. I was like why does he like me and she told me to ask him myself. well i didn't want to because I know what she went through with him and besides she doesn't like when her friends date her exs. well she told me that he wanted to talk to me and she said I should talk to him so I was like okay. well we started talking and then carly got offline. well like five minutes later she got back on so I started talking to her again. then she started freaking out on me and she told me to fuck off and stuff like that. I was like okay. I told her that if us talking was making her mad then I wouldn't talk to him but she just got offline. well I was still talking to her ex and she was talking to him and told him that she wasn't my friend and she hated me. he said he was going to talk to her which he did later on and she didn't seem like she was mad at me anymore. so this morning I called her and she hung up on me. so I called back again and she started screaming at me. I apologized for yesterday and I told her that I wasn't trying to go out with him or anything I was just excited that someone finally liked me but I didn't intend to hurt her and I told her that if talking to him was going to ruin our friendship that I wouldn't talk to him anymore. but she didn't really listen to me she just told me that she didn't want anything to do with me and that we weren't friends anymore. and then she hung up on me again. I don't want to lose her as my best friend and I am really depressed again but I don't know what to do since she won't talk to me. I feel empty and like I want to die without her, I know that is kind of weird but she has done so much for me and been there for me when noone else was. Pleas help me figure out what to do so that I won't lose her. I know that the fact that she is pregnant and all stressed out because of her bf has something to do with it but I want us to be best friends again. I will do whatever it takes so I don't lose her.

I didn't read your other question, but I think I have enough information to answer this question.

There isn't much you can do at this point. You've done a lot, and she hasn't listened to you. You've explained to her that you don't like him and aren't going out with him, right?
That's all you can do.
I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's true.
YOU HAVE NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR. You did nothing wrong. She's the one who blew everything out of control.
What I would do is wait until she comes around. She should realize that she blew everything out of proportion and apologize.

But if she doesn't come around... try again. Tell her that you would NEVER do that to her, and that you treasure your friendship too much to do that.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders

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(Rating: 5) yeah I've told her that I don't like him and that I am not going out with him. my mom said the exact same thing about that being all I can do. Yeah I decided I am going to give her some time and then call her again and see what happens. Thanks for helping me out.
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