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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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I'm a sixteen year old girl.

Ok. Well last summer I went on this camping trip with this Chrisitan club I go to. I decided to sit next to a friend who I had met about 7 days before we got on the charter bus to head to Colorado. Well I got on the bus and ten minutes later my supposed friend was hitting on me and trying to kiss me and such. I kept telling him no but it didn't seem to get into his head. He would try to rub my stomach, rub my legs, massage my back, and more. I was so scared. I tried to yell for the adult supervisors on the bus but he would always pull me to him and try to kiss me when I did that. I was terrified. I had been sexually harrassed twice before in my life so I knew what might happen if I didn't get him to stop. Well we got off for a break and I switched seats with someone and sat next to my friend Jessica but he convinced her to move and so he was next to me again. Well when we got there he started leaving me alone and everything was fine but then these three others guy started coming on to me too and I was scared again. I didn't know what to do. I told all the leaders I knew would listen and they said they would try to keep them away from me but they were never around when the boys were. Well I'm of course back from camp now and I haven't seen those three guys but my supposed friend won't leave me alone. I'm afraid of telling my parents because my dad will blow up and try to fatally injure him. I just don't know what to do. What can I do?

Ask him why he's acting like that, and tell him to stop. Say it in a calm, nice way.

"Why do you keep doing that? Please stop, I don't like it."

I know you've told him that before, but it wouldn't hurt to tell him that again. You need to warn him that you will not tolerate his behavior anymore.

He doesn't seem like a good friend if he keeps doing that, even when you tell him to stop.

If he doesn't stop, and/or it gets worse... you need to take action. This is sexual harrassment (as you already know) and it's ILLEGAL.

You need to talk to your parents. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but it needs to be done if you've warned him and he still does it. They can help you.

Give your father credit. He wouldn't risk going to jail just because a guy with raging hormones did that to you. Your father won't like the kid, but he will, most likely, not hurt him.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders

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(Rating: 4) I have actually now told my parents but they didn't seem to get very angry or anything about it. All they said was "Keep away from him and it won't happen again."
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