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Alright, I dated this guy for about 2 months. And we just broke up about I guess 2 weeks ago? Well before we broke up, things were going great. A few nights before we went to a football game and he was telling me how much he cared about me and how happy it made him that he could hold me and junk like that (Corny I know). Well a few days later he talks to my brother and tells him he has to break up with me. I was devasted to say the least. So I called him. He told me what had happened... that he just had too much going on in his life right now and couldn't handle a relationship. We rarely were able to see each other and the only way we could talk was after he got off work at like 11:30 at night. And sometimes he was so tired that the conversations weren't that long. So I understand why he did it. He kept telling me on the phone he still loved me and he cared about me and that he hoped it wouldn't be a permanent thing, ya know? And I told him that it was fine and that I understood. Well now things are weird. I see him every other day or so whenever my brother wants to go and see him at his work. And I can handle seeing him just fine. But we don't really talk. He'll say a few words to me and stuff like that, but that's about it. He'll joke and crap. One time when I went up there, he hugged my brother really short and then hugged me and I thought he wasn't going to let go. Anyway, he claims he cares about me so much and that he wants us to get back together eventually, but he never even calls. Even when he's off work... and I'm just confused. I'm trying to figure out if he still feels anything for me and why he doesn't even call. If any of you could help me I'd be more than glad to rate... I'll rate high too!!
Thanks so much for reading this.
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hi,
It sounds like your feelings for this guy have overwhelmed you, and prevented you from viewing the situation objectively. From what you've said it's clear he has some commitment problems, but was prepared to play with your emotions while making his own interests a priority.
Right now, however, it's understandably hard for you to accept this. It will take time to get over him, and the way forward is to surround yourself with friends and family. By all means talk about what happened to people you trust, but also focus on the fact that you're a free agent now with a life of your own to lead.
What you're feeling won't go away overnight. In many ways you need to grieve for the loss of what you had. But slowly you'll learn to accept that what happened is in the past, and move on feeling stronger for the experience
Goodluck
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