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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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There this guy that I like and he likes me too ( we might be going out soon.. he told me he wanted to ask me an important question after I came back from vacation ) and it's just kinda been bothering me in my mind like ( cause I'm kinda preppy/girly )," What are we gonna do whenever we hang out together out in like public like the mall? He'll want to go into Hot Topic and stuff and I'll want to go into Hollister and Abercrombie..." and I feel very outta place around his friends and stuff cause they're all in black and skater clothes and I'm sitting there all in like Hollister shirts and stuff. I really want to go out with him, that's just been nagging in the back of my head for awhile now. And it's just whenever I hang out with him I have SO much fun and if we do have some stuff in common like I do like alotta punk bands and stuff and etc., I just hate how everyone out there will freak out basically ( at least at my school ) if punks are dating punks/goths or preps aren't dating jocks and preps and stuff, I mean why can't people just let people date people? =/ Please help!!





Love,
Labeled Love =/

Labels are stupid, and this is a prime example why. You shouldn't be limited to being friends with/dating a certain "Group" of people just because of one stupid word SOMEONE ELSE used to label you.

Forget everyone at school. If they need to worry about other people's personal lives, they obviously lack one. If people say something negative about it, ignore them. It's none of their business.

And about the "feeling out of place" thing... well, this guy likes you for who you are, and his friends should accept that. If you hang out with them, they probably do.

About the mall thing... You two can make an agreement that you will go in his stores, if he goes in yours, and you can't spend too much time in each store!
Plus, there are so many more places to hang out than the mall! Movies, the park... so many possibilites!

You sound happy, so go out with him and have fun! Who cares what everyone else says?

And it's great that you don't let labels rule your life!!

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much!! That really helped!! =D
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