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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!

If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).

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Ok, here's the deal. I have this boyfriend I have been with since 7th grade. We know each other very well, and are really comfortable around each other. But last winter his parents split up and he got mixed up with the wrong crowd, started doing drugs, starting ruining his life in general, and not to mention ruining our relationship not only as a couple but as I see him. He started blowing me off, not calling, not keeping promises, point blank..doing drugs. So we broke up for awhile, and I met this really great other guy. We talked about everything, and it evetually lead into a relationship. He was really laid back and we had lots of good times together. But to be honest, i couldn't open up to this kid as much as the other one. I was very standoffish and I couldn't like him to the point where I wanted to be more than just friends. He was very sweet to me and would do anything for me. He was the total opposite of what the other kid was, my old boyfriend is very protective of me and gets jealous and mad vey easily. so that was just what I needed. So, a few things happened, I cheated on this kid with my old boyfriend, and I needed to break up with him. I feel like such a bad person because he is such a good guy. After awhile, my old boyfriend went to Florida to figure out who he was and get more self respect for himself. While he was down there he would call me every single night. I was the only thing he had to hold onto. Now he's back up here, and I've hung out with him, but I'm not convinced he's changed and I don't want him to go back to his old ways. I am in love with this kid because we basically grew up together, but in some ways I feel like I made the wrong decision. Sometimes I feel like I should have gone with the other kid. I need some GOOD advise because I have been thinking about this for a long time.



PLEASE HELP, thank you*

Just because you've had feelings for him for a long time doesn't mean you still have them. You could be clinging to a bad habit, just like he is. To me, it doesn't sound like you're in love with this kid.

But because you've known him for a long time, you know he's been messing up his life, and is going to continue doing so. He messed up your relationship once, why won't he do it again? I'm sorry to put insecurities in your head, but seriously think about it. Do you want to be dragged down with him? When people close to someone get depressed, they have a tendency to get that way as well.

As for the other guy, if you didn't have those feelings for him, then don't worry about it. You did what you felt was right, and that's good enough. When you make a decision don't look back, or you'll regret it. Whatever the decision is.

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(Rating: 3) thats good advise, but i really do love this kid.
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