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My name is Cordelia Moore, and I'm a twenty-one year old Air Force wife living in England. I pride myself on intellect and am interested in many subjects, including Theology, Mythology, Psychology, Philosophy, History, Geology, Culture, Geography, and Literature. I am employed with the base Arts and Crafts center, and love to express myself artisticly. Some of my favorite aesthetic mediums are photography, scrapbooking, painting, drawing, mould pouring, stain glass windows, writing, and web design. I am a cat person by nature, and have two little felines name Sage and Eris. I enjoy helping others, ask a question get a sincere answer.


Why did I choose the username Nyx? Nyx is the ancient goddess of Night in Greek mythology, daughter of Chaos. She is a primal ancestress, and mother of many deities by Her brother Erebus (Darkness). Her children are for the most part dark sorts and include the Moerae (the three Fates), Nemesis (justice and divine retribution), winged Hypnos (Sleep) and His brother Thanatos (Death), Moros (Doom), the Keres, goddesses of violent death, Oizys (Misery), the Hesperides who guarded the golden apples, Deceit, Friendship, Old Age and Eris(Discord).


She was depicted as riding in a chariot, trailing stars and bringing the night, and accompaied by Her sons Hypnos and Thanatos. She could be helpful or harmful to mankind, bringing either sleep or death. Nyx had prophetic powers, and gave them to oracles from a cave. She was older and more powerful than Zeus, who deferred to Her wishes.


advice

So, my guy and I went ring shopping today and picked out rings.
The problem is gonna be my mom. He gave me an antique ring on valentine's day almost two years ago, and I've been wearing that one, but we picked one that will be sized to fit my left ring finger. Basically, we are engaged, but we're keeping it quiet until about halfway through college, when it'll be more acceptable to my parents.
This ring kind of looks like an engagement ring, but it's not a diamond. That's the only thing, though it is a single stone, which is symbolic enough. My mom is extremely against my getting married young (we're planning to get married in four or five years, so there's no rush at all, but my mom wouldn't understand that). I'm 17 and he's 19. I'll be 18 in October. Anyway, my mom's gonna freak out when she sees the ring on that finger, and essentially a wedding band on his.
What do I say to her?
Please, no smartass remarks. I'll just rate you down for stupidity.
Thanks in advance. =)

When people get engaged, the male doesn't wear a wedding band until they are actually married. However, if he wants to wear the ring, and your mother happens to notice, simply reply that they are promise rings. Promise rings are pretty big amongst people who've been dating for a while.

What is a promise ring? It's a promise to eachother that you will remain faithful to eachother, even though you aren't engaged or even married. It's a promise that one day you will get engaged.

Since the stone is not diamond, your mother would be more likely to accept that story. Although she might ask why you're not wearing it on your right hand. Just take it in small strides, and don't go around telling all your friends you're engaged. If you tell a lot of people it's bound to get back to her ears.

If it does get back to her ears, then don't lie about it. Simply state the facts that you provided me. "Yes, we are engaged, however we are not planning on getting married for another 4 to 5 years." That should ease her a little.

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(Rating: 5) We decided we wanted to get rings for each other - we're going to separate colleges and we want people to know we're taken. We figured the best way to do that is a ring. Thanks for your advice. =)
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