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My name is Brie, but you can just call me Wily (no, that's not my real last name). I'm an eighteen year old from rural Mid-Michigan (think Saginaw or Bay City, only surrounded by miles and miles of trees, corn, and sugar beets).

I'm an honor student, sort of. Not to brag, but I was Salutatorian of my high school class. I specialize in English, educational topics, and social studies, but I'm good with basic sciences and drama too.

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I don't have much experience with relationships but I have a natural nack for giving advice about them. I also don't know anything firsthand about things that we do not mention in polite company, but I know a lot about the science and psychology of them, so I'd be glad to answer safety-based questions--just don't ask me about technique, becuase I know nothing. I'll try to answer anything you throw at me, and many things that you don't, though, so feel free to try me.

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I'm 14/f and I know I should be reading advanced books because I'm in 11th grade Honors english even though I'm a freshman. And, generally, I do. But a lot of the time I like to read books that are, well, sappy romance novels. Like the book version of soap operas. Big time guilty pleasure!!! I feel so guuuuuuuilty about it. It's like cheap candy, tasty to eat only not very nourishing, but it's a book. And since my family is big on reading "advanced literature" and my mom would freak out if she knew I was reading them, and I don't know whether it's ok for a person of my level of reading to be reading these!? I know it sounds like I'm being a snobby bitch that needs to be reassured of her own level but I'm not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks a lot!!!!!

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♥ Lulu

I sort of understand how you feel, Lulu. I was reading at a 9th grade reading level in third grade; by my eighth grade year I had reached college level. English classes have always been jokes for me, and my teachers frequently assigned me books that were too complex or boring for other students.

It's good that you read. VERY good. It's good for your mind, and good for your studies. And there's nothing wrong with reading some Trashy Love Stories. One of my best friends is the same way.

However, you should try to balance your literary tastes a bit, and make sure you don't read too many trashy romances. Remember, books have two levels--reading level, and interest level. Reading levels are an approximation of what grade you'd have to be into understand the words in a novel. Interest levels are the level the novel was written for. Romances tend to have low to middle reading levels--which is cool for those of us with high reading levels--and high interest levels. You are kinda young, and probably fairly inexperienced with sex and love. You need to make sure that these books don't give you an unrealistic view of romance and sexuality... which means that, like any guilty pleasure, they must be taken in moderation.

I guess, my advice to you is, try to keep toward the more cerebral end of the trashy romance fiction... and make sure to mix in some stuff from other genres are too. Classics are good, as is the odd sci-fi novel. If you want some suggestions, feel free to ask me in my own private journal.

Also, talk to your mom about sex, if she won't tweak out. That way you get mulitple perspectives on the act, so you won't get wrapped up in the romance novel concept thereof.

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(Rating: 5) thx a lot!!!

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