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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!

If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).

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The other night , well day actually Me and my 'boy' were just Hanging out, right? Well yes i am young, A minor ( too young for kids either way ) .. Well yeah we hadnt seen eachother in forever .. So yeah we hung out n stuff yeahh.. Then we ended up having..sex & I left blah well Later on, His father ( yess.. can you say Ahh? ) he walked in the room saying he smelt sex & Picked one of the.. four condoms up and realized it was broken, This was around 5-8 or so.. on a Tuesday night, so I'm gona get tested to be safe ( i guess, right thing to do right? ) on Tuesday.. night probably like 9. Well, Do yall think its better to have a plan what to do before I find out, and we need to make one ? Lately alls weve gotten at is, "Shit were gona be even more fucked" , Or should we just worry about it later? Also, He is going to be 18 next year, And I will still be a minor, I am NOT bragging at all I just want help, But we both have very wealthy families.. Not sure how this happened, with bright futures, and How to break it to them? His father knows ones broken though, Whats the best thing to do here? Its kinda crazy, Kinda hard to sleep and eat, with this decision totally on my own.

You should always have a plan when this kind of stuff happens. I personally have no experience with sex... but my sister (and some girls I know) have gotten pregnant as minors. So hopefully I can help you out here...

First thing you should do-- Get tested for STDs. Like, just in case, you know... that way, at least you'll know you if have them, and some STDs will go away with treatment. Possibly your doctor could test you? If not, call and ask for recommendations. Heck, even go and ask for reccomendations. Your parents still don't have to know at this point (even if it is the right thing to tell them).. you can just tell them you feel sick, then ask for some privacy with your doctor.

Second-- Wait.. if your period is late, that's when you're in trouble. Just because a condom broke doesn't mean that you'll automatically get pregnant. But if your period is late... it's a sign... get tested for a pregnancy. (Or an early pregnancy, if you don't want to wait that long) Get an at-home pregnancy test from a drug-store. Get several, if you want to. (Hey, you have money to spend!).. you can even go to a doctor and ask them if it seems like you're pregnant.

Now, if you are pregnant, you should try to eat and sleep, for your child's sake. And tell your parents. There is a good chance that they will support you, even if they'll be dissapointed... Decide whether or not to have an abortion, set up an adoption or even keep the child... seek help from a doctor, and they'll tell you what to do/not to do if you decide to go through with the pregnancy. Go to a psychologist if you are really having trouble with the whole sleeping and eating thing.. sometimes they can help. Even go to a regular doctor and ask them for a prescription (TELL THEM THERE IS A POSSIBILITY OF PREGNANCY!!)

To prevent this kind of thing from happening again, I would suggest birth control pills perscribed by a doctor... there are other methods, like having your tubes tied, or something along those lines, but I find them a little scary and too permanent. I hope I helped!!

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(Rating: 5) Thanks so much.. Thats a lot of very very helpful advice, I really needed it thanks so much
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