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Please note that at this time, I am not accepting questoins. I am having serious doubts about the amount of time and patience that this site requires of me, as well as how I fit into its structure. Becuase of that, I will not be checking advicenators for a while, and thus WILL NOT BE ABLE TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS. Here's my intact profile, however, in case I come back.Welcome to my humble abode... or something.
My name is Brie, but you can just call me Wily (no, that's not my real last name). I'm an eighteen year old from rural Mid-Michigan (think Saginaw or Bay City, only surrounded by miles and miles of trees, corn, and sugar beets).
I'm an honor student, sort of. Not to brag, but I was Salutatorian of my high school class. I specialize in English, educational topics, and social studies, but I'm good with basic sciences and drama too.
I'm a big geek; I like to write and play RPGs, and my favorite video games ever are the Pokemon series. I'm actually a relatively well-known Pokemon master (I've moderated the forums of two bigger Pokemon fansites, and have been an on and off admin at one), and at the two sites where I became relatively popular I aquired the reputation of "The Pokemon Professor." However, that doesn't do me much good here, becuase who is going to ask about Pokemon on an advice site?
I don't have much experience with relationships but I have a natural nack for giving advice about them. I also don't know anything firsthand about things that we do not mention in polite company, but I know a lot about the science and psychology of them, so I'd be glad to answer safety-based questions--just don't ask me about technique, becuase I know nothing. I'll try to answer anything you throw at me, and many things that you don't, though, so feel free to try me.
Be warned though, I'm not afraid to tell it like it is. There are stupid questions, and if yours is one I will respectfully tell you so, and attempt to give you the information you need anyway. If you need to buck up and accept what's happening, I will say so. However, in this column I try to maintain a standard of respect, kindness, and helpfulness; you will not be flamed here. Unless you're a babyeater or something.
So, drop me a line, and I'll do what I can. Live long and prosper!
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Now, I know this is gonna kinda look stupid, what with this being an advice site at all, but I have a few simple requests for you.
- Do a search to make sure no one has already asked that question, or if they have, that their case is significantly different than yours. It's very frustrating when you have to answer the same question over and over again.
- Give your age and sex. I know, anonymity is a big deal, but it really helps me if I have an idea how old you are and what sex you are. This is especially relevent for questions about sex, relationships, and makeup.
- Try to use proper spelling and paragraph breaks I usually scan questions before reading them, and it's helpful to me if things are spelled properly and broken up if they're kind of long. Don't worry, if I actually choose to answer the question I read it all the way though, but scanning helps me get into the right frame of mind.
- Please avoid internet acronyms. These drive me insane. Quoting is acceptable (if you quote someone who said them in your questoni, that's fine). Also, some are ok. I will tolerate bf, gf, bff, lol, etc.
- Don't rate badly just becuase I told you something you didn't want to hear. Now, I know, this is a bit of a shocker--me basically begging for ratings, right? But I'm not. Basically, don't come to me expecting me to affirm what you already plan on doing, and then rate me down when I say it's a bad idea. If you're already so sure that you're going to reject my advice, then JUST DON'T ASK. Save us both the trouble. For the record, I'm not asking you to rate high. If I give dangerous advice, give me a one, and if I give bad advice,i give me a two, but don't rate down good advice just because it's not what you wanted me to say. I do advice, not affirmations.
If you do not follow these guidelines, I may not answer your quesiton. I will not say that I won't, because with some questions you don't need to say some of these things, and with some of these guidelines, you can't do anything until I've answered. But please make my life easier. That's what I'm trying to do for yours.
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I have an extra curricualr activity. There's this guy there. His name is Gabriel. He's not the hottest guy in the world, but I think he's totally nice. We have a lot in common. We see eachother once a week, and talk on AIM. We're in different grades. He's in 8th, I'm in 7th. We don't go to the same school, and won't be able to see eachother over the summer. I really care about him, but he doesn't know. My friends think he's ugly, and that even if he is nice, he's not worth it because he's ugly. I don't care about looks so much. I'm really shy too...
What should I do?
Wow, your friends are shallow.
You're right; looks aren't THAT important. It's much better to be with a nice guy than a mean one, even if you do have to make him wear a paper bag.
No, in all seriousness, physical appearance doesn't really mean much. A lot of the sweetest, kindest guys are ugly as all get out... and a lot of the most horrible, mean, controlling people are really, really hot. Of course, hot guys can also be nice and ugly guys can also be mean. Looks really have no bearing on personality.
My advice to you is to tell your friends exactly what you've said here--that you don't care about looks. Remind them that this means there'll be one less girl competing for the hotties they're after; that should straighten them out a little. IF they dump you over dating an ugly boy--a practice that ultimately helps them in their shallow goal of dating a Ken doll--then they aren't really your friends, are they? I know it hurts to think about, but if they're too afraid to be associated with someone who dates an ugly boy, then they really aren't worth your time.
As for him, I suggest you just tell him you're into him. Don't worry about rejection, don't worry about what people will think, just tell him that you like him. Sure, he might reject you, but it's just fine if he does. Even the most happily married people get rejected when they're young--sometimes by the person they end up married to later! Getting turned down is a part of learning how to handle love, and if he turns you down it will be just as good for you as getting accepted.
Just follow your heart, and you'll be fine.
(Rating: 5) AHH! Rejection! SCARY!