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Q: Ok here it goes. Me and my bff have been bestfriends for a little over a year. Yes we have our fights and such but one of us apologizes and we get over it. Well the other day i was having a crappy day and kind of took it out on her because usually i can trust her to not take it to the extreme or freak out. Well later on i had realized what i did and apologized for it and she went off saying i take her for granted and im selfish and all these other things. Well we didnt talk for the rest of the day and for most of today. But then she randomly IMed me like nothing had happend and like she hadnt said anything. I read her online journal and she said that she wasnt going to apologize because she didnt do or say anything wrong. But i think she did. maybe not as much what she said but how she said it. I dont know if i should tell her how i feel and talk with her about it risking her getting mad about it. or should i just hold it in and forget about it?

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It looks as if you were in the wrong. Just because you were having a crappy day doesn't give you the right to take it out on her. And by you saying 'usually I can trust her to not take it to the extreme or freak out' goes to show that you probably have taken your frustration and anger out on her even before this incident. She was right to get upset at you, because you are taking her for granted. Instead of freaking out on her, you should talk to her and explain to her why you are in a bad mood, and let her be your shoulder to lean on. She doesn't owe you any kind of apology. In fact, you owe her another one. Friends are hard to come by, and when you find a good one, you should hold on to her as tight as possible.

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um that wasnt my question but ok

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