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Q: don't bother reading if you can't manage, but 5's to any singly word of response because i really really need some advice here...

i have this twin sister- we're both 14- and she is really immature and selfish and just a totally disgusting and impossible person. sometimes i love her, but alot of times i could just explode! she is just so hard to take!

the main problems with her are that she is really into herself but at the same time extremely insecure and self-consious...and the second is that she just can NOT get over things...like tonight she was trying to get me to remember something by repeating like the same vague amature description over and over and I was like, OK I DON'T REMEMBER CAN WE DROP IT OR CAN YOU GIVE ME A BETTER CLUE?!?!

See its little stuff like that, but I just want to rip my brains our and throw them at her face!!!!!!!!!!! I HATE sharing things with her when I just don't really like her as a person...and she really harms me as a person, because I spend so much energy being infuriated at her or trying to ignore her pesty existence.

I really feel like we are the only people in this world that each other has, so we need to get along...but I just cannot tolerate her at ALL! Its like her brain is so many pages behind, and I can't stretch to reach her and make her stupid accomodations.

Is there any way I can coexist with her as a step towards actually liking her? There are some people in this world that I just cannot ever like, and that's okay, but I really don't want her to be one of them...and how can I vent my feelings in a healthy way? lol i've been sitting in my room screaming (literally) for the past 20 minutes...ew and I wouldn't do anything to hurt anyone so don't go there....

snaps to you for reading this!
xox and SOS

I understand exactly how you are feeling. I have a younger sister, and she is the exact same way as your sister. But for you, it is ten times as hard to deal with because she is your twin sister.

Communication is my key word in any relationship problem, and with her being your twin sister, this is probably one of the most important relationships in your life. Talk to your sister. Sit down with her in private and explain to her that you love her with all of your heart, but that there are some things about her that you don't understand or don't like. Let her know that you want to have her not only as your sister, but your best friend. Let her know that you don't understand her selfishness or the way that she acts. It could be that your sister doesn't even know that she is acting in an offensive way. You have to spend time with your sister and get to understand and know her as a person. Get into her head and learn what makes her act the way she does or do the things she does. Once you start treating her like a friend also, and not just a sibling, then that is when your relationship when your relationship with her will grow.

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