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Please note that at this time, I am not accepting questoins. I am having serious doubts about the amount of time and patience that this site requires of me, as well as how I fit into its structure. Becuase of that, I will not be checking advicenators for a while, and thus WILL NOT BE ABLE TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS. Here's my intact profile, however, in case I come back.Welcome to my humble abode... or something.
My name is Brie, but you can just call me Wily (no, that's not my real last name). I'm an eighteen year old from rural Mid-Michigan (think Saginaw or Bay City, only surrounded by miles and miles of trees, corn, and sugar beets).
I'm an honor student, sort of. Not to brag, but I was Salutatorian of my high school class. I specialize in English, educational topics, and social studies, but I'm good with basic sciences and drama too.
I'm a big geek; I like to write and play RPGs, and my favorite video games ever are the Pokemon series. I'm actually a relatively well-known Pokemon master (I've moderated the forums of two bigger Pokemon fansites, and have been an on and off admin at one), and at the two sites where I became relatively popular I aquired the reputation of "The Pokemon Professor." However, that doesn't do me much good here, becuase who is going to ask about Pokemon on an advice site?
I don't have much experience with relationships but I have a natural nack for giving advice about them. I also don't know anything firsthand about things that we do not mention in polite company, but I know a lot about the science and psychology of them, so I'd be glad to answer safety-based questions--just don't ask me about technique, becuase I know nothing. I'll try to answer anything you throw at me, and many things that you don't, though, so feel free to try me.
Be warned though, I'm not afraid to tell it like it is. There are stupid questions, and if yours is one I will respectfully tell you so, and attempt to give you the information you need anyway. If you need to buck up and accept what's happening, I will say so. However, in this column I try to maintain a standard of respect, kindness, and helpfulness; you will not be flamed here. Unless you're a babyeater or something.
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i have a guy friend that i like for a while and i still do like him and he likes me one problem is that he gots a gf and we close and he always tells me that he loves me and we can talk for hours and not worry about who knows we talking but my question is is it a bad thing that he has more feeling for me and not his gf? plz help!
Yes, it is a bad thing, and you should keep your distance.
To be honest, I'd stay away from this guy. For one, if his girlfriend is your friend, and you and he date, it'll probably make her very angry. Boyfriends come and go, but real friends in high school are hard to come by. Plus, if she's popular enough she could start some nasty rumors... and while that's no good reason not to do something, it is an annoyance and a hassle that will make a turbulent time even worse.
Further, if he will do this to his girlfriend, what do you think he'll do to you when you're dating him? There's an off chance that he really genuinely loves you, but I'm guessing that you're in high school or junior high, and at that age it's not very likely. Even if he does care about you, this doesn't speak well for his honesty. There's no way for you to know if everything he says to you is a lie too.
I think you should distance yourself from him. Tell him that you want to be his friend, but you can't because what you're doing would hurt your friend. Break it off. If he takes it well, then keep quiet; if he doesn't, or tries to do anything, tell her.
You want to avoid telling her if you can, becuase she'll blame the messenger and see you just as being just as guilty as him. But if she asks, pony up, or else you'll be in for a world of trouble. Whatever happens, BE HONEST when asked. Don't lie, don't cover up. Tell the truth. It may cause some hurt in the short term but it'll be less embarassing and better for you in the long run.
Just remember, at our age, it's more important to have friends than to have boyfriends.
(Rating: 5) i dont know the girl but i will use ur advice thanks