I know exactly what you are going through. I am going to give you my contact info. just in case you need to talk to somebody:
email: shadiggy01@aol.com
AIM: shadiggy01

I too had my first child when I was young. I was only 18. (I got pregnant when I was 17.) Me and my then boyfriend got married when I was about five months pregnant. Your mom is right, your child is your responsibility, but you are your mother's child also, and that makes you her responsibility. I can understand that your parents are upset and disappointed with you, but what's done is done. You can't go back and change it, you have to deal with it now.

First of all, I suggest that you talk to your mom, one-on-one, and tell her that you know you made a mistake, but that you love your daughter and you want to keep her. Let her know that you love her too, and instead of her being so negative towards you, she could at least try to be there for you when you need her the most. Let her know that you are still her daughter, but that you are also human, and like any human you make mistakes. Tell her that you wish that she could accept you and still show her love towards you.

Second, I suggest you get in touch with the babies father, and talk to him. Let him know that he helped make her, and he needs to help take care of her. He needs to babysit her sometimes so you can study, get some rest, or have some free time to yourself. Let him know that babies aren't free. That they require food, clothing, diapers, and that he needs to contribute. If you can, try to speak to some kind of counselor about putting him on child support. He has to take responsibility for his actions too, not just you.

I am not sure exactly what a council flat is, but it sounds like you have it rough. You are on your own at 16 with a young baby. I can only imagine how stressful and hard that is. Do you have friends that are willing to come over for a few hours a day a couple times a week to help you out? Do you have other family members that are willing to lend a helping hand?

This first year is going to be a hard time for you, I know this. But you have to have faith that you are going to make it through it. Prayer helps.

I wish only the best for you and your daughter, and contact me if you need some more advice, someone to talk to, or just a friend.

hey huni ill try email you soon!

I am a 22 year old mother of two that has had to grow up a lot faster then her years. I have been married for four years, but now am seperated from my significant other due to lack of his being able to handle a mature relationship. I can relate to almost anyone, and have been sought out, both online and off, for my advice. I answer all questions truthfully and honestly. If I don't know an answer to a question or I think other resources would be helpful, then I go into researh mode until I find an answer or the proper resource. I aspire to be a life coach in the future, because I like helping people make decisions to make their life better for their future. I am here not only to answer advice questions on this site, but to also chat with you if you feel like you need a more indepth one-on-one help.

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