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At a recent school dance, they had 2 grades there: 7th and 8th, and im in 8th grade. My friend billy was there (7th grade) and me and my friends were hanging out with him and his freidns who are also in 7th grade, a year younger than us. I was flirting like a tonnn with this one kid, steven, and it was really fun and he was being a flirt back..he's very nice and sweet, has adorable green eyes and is very cute. he's got a cute voice and cute hair and is my height too, which is a plus. Anyway, my boyfriend and i of 1 1/2 months just broke up and it was really hard for me. But at the dance, flirting and hanging out with steven made me realize how much fun that was you know? so like we became friends at the dance and then my friends and his friends were like hey i see a connection here! and they kept saying stuff so he asked me to dance and we danced together and talked and like...i really liked it. I felt comfortable with him, in his arms, and i just wanted to kiss him. It was really cool, but hes in 7th grade and im in 8th. People think it's weird to go out with a 7th grader when youre in 8th grade, and if you do, everybody talks about you and it alters your reputation. I don't really want people to think anything bad about me or get a bad rep from going out with a 7th grader. He's very cute and sweet and i think i really like him...but he's not "popular" but i cant see why..i'm confused on what to do..could someone please give me some advice? stay just friends or date him? Thanks!! and sorry it's so long!! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Two things to talk about. One: Personally I think its weird... I mean, in 8th grade I would NOT had gone out with a 7th grader. Of course, maybe I just never met the right 7th grader, l.o.l. I thought my friend (who IS the popular type) did. So popuar people DO date 1yr younger. Freshman year I dated a 10th grader (I'm not a hypocrite... I swear!) Between 7th and 9th grade I thought about dating older/younger and there' nothing wrong with it if you really like the person. If I met the right person... maybe I would. Younger no more than a grade. Maybe he's not even a year younger than you... maybe just months. Oh, an a lot of 10th graders date 9th graders. Anyways, in middle school (7th and 8th grade) it is pretty weird and people often talk about you. You have to decide what is more important to you... what you are willing to give up... If you really like the guy then go for it. It will only be weird for everyone else at first. Then they'll be used to it.
Thing number 2: OK, forget about grades. How long has it been sine your break up? You may need more time to heal. Maybe the only reason you like this other boy is... well what if he's just your reboud. Im not saying he is, I just want you to think about it. If you rush into a relationsip or get in one for the wrong reasons things will turn out bad. Make sure you don't like that guy for the wrong reasons. I mean... yeah he's cool and nice and flirting with him is fun... if it would had been another cool/fun/nice guy, would you had fallen for him too? Just... think about it.
Well I hope it all turns out in your favor. Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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Thank you soo much..that was really really good advice. I'll come to you with more of my questions because you say it like it is and that's really helpful. Thank you soo much!
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