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last night me and my boyfriend of nearly 3 years were in my room and sleeping. not fooling around, literally sleeping. then my dad comes in and freaks out bitching like we had sex or something.

the situation is that i'm the only girl in the family and they treat me like crap. i do the dishes almost every night, take care of my sick grandma, do the laundry, clean the house, and do well in school yet they still look down upon me like i can't be trusted. i am a very responsible girl and i have had enough of them snooping through my room and checking up on me.

the only possible reason why i think they could be acting like this is that we don't communicate very well with each other, let alone get along. maybe bitching is their way of talking to me? even so, that doesn't explain the overprotectiveness!

my question is what can i do to make them trust me? i feel like i've done everything, all ending in failure.

i used to really HATE them for what they put me through, but when they made an effort to BE NICE things got better. our relationship has improved over the past two of months, but after what happened last night, my grudge against them has returned.

please help, i don't know what else i can do. it seems like nothing is ever good enough for them...

-frustrated

i guess i know what you feel, because i'm an asian female as well. asian parents tend to stick to their roots and sometimes it's hard to get them to think out of the box. i've been through hell to get them to understand me and my ways, and eventually, things came out pretty well. im eighteen now and i have a boyfriend of two and a half years, but when i was fourteen.. man.. they literally killed me. i know you dont want to hear it, but it is better to talk to them about your situation. you're an adult, and from what i see, you seem to be mature. let them know that. and let them know that you are living in america, not somewhere in asia. things are different here, whether or not they like it... i hope things work out with you.. if you'd like to talk, leave me a message.

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(Rating: 5) thanks for your advice. yea that's how my parents are too, i'm just appalled that they still have the nerve to treat me this way. i'm glad i can have someone to relate to! the problem with talking to them is pretty rash, the last time i tried to explain them to treat me as an individual i almost got killed...my dad lost his temper and almost strangled me for something so stupid as "talking bacK" when i was defending myself. but hey thanks for the advice, i'll definitely take it into consideration. my aim sn is oomilkbubbleoo if you'd like to chat
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