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To give some background information, I am 14 years old (female). I am currently dating this amazing guy who is 16. He's a very very nice guy and I think that I'm falling in love with him. Well, I started dating when I was 12, yes I know that was young but I wanted to be "cool". My first boyfriend was from church (14) and I had this great friend (13)from my church. I always saw them flirting and I really didn't think much of it. One day, we were at a youth group meeting and I found the two of them making out behind the church and I was completely heart broken. I broke up with him and then I moved onto boyfriend #2 who was 15 and I was 12. He was still having sex with his ex girlfriend so that was the end of us. Finally (4 boyfriends after the one that had sex with his ex... all of the others cheated on me too...) I found this guy that was PERFECT... So I thought. We were together for 4 months and I was in love. He was the first guy that I said "I love you" to and actually meant it. Things in my life couldn't have been better. Then around our 3rd month of being together, he got on the subject of sex and I was like well, I want to wait a little bit because I'm not ready. He kept telling me "No you're ready, I love you blah blah blah." He was presuring me into having sex with him and I was going to give in. Luckily, I was having things going on in my family at the time and I could never see him so he broke up with me and I found out that he was cheating on me with some 17 year old girl ( He had sex with her) And she thought she was pregnant. I went into this depression and I was cutting and tried to commit suicide. About a month later I met this amazing guy named Tim. We've been dating for 5 and a half months now and I love him, I know I do. He had the same situation with his ex girlfriend, she started doing drugs and she cheated on him and she pressured him into having sex and he wasn't ready (They didn't have sex though.) The thing is, I'm still nervous as HELL to fall in love with him because I don't want to get my heart broken again... He's #7 and I want him to be the one... I really do but I'm so so so scared that I'm going to get hurt again. I've told him that and he tells me that he'd never do that to me, EVER. I've heard that line over and over again. I feel like I trust him, but I really don't know. Can anyone help me try to get over being paranoid?? I really feel like I love this guy and I want to make it last.
PS: He goes to a different school than I do.
Thank you SO much if you can help.... Sorry this was so long =/ I really need the help though.
My friend's motto..it's perfect in this situation *If you aren't willing to risk it all, then you don't want it bad enough* If you're scared to take the risk of falling in love& getting hurt again, then you don't want him bad enough. If you don't take the risk you're going to be scared& worrying about it until you decide to finally get over your fear. Goodluck hun..and I'm sorry all that has happened to you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you!! That was awesome advice. You made me think. Unlike the person that had answered me before, you didn't make me feel worse! Thank you so much! I do want him, I need him really... He's my everything and I never want to lose him. You're right, well your friend and you are right. Thank you so much!!!