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Alright I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 17. A while back, we were hanging out; and I guess you could say things got a little out of hand. Well, I recently found out that I was pregnant. Today, my friend Amber (who is also pregnant, but not from my boyfriend) pushed me into telling my boyfriend. He didn't freak out, but he was upset. He told me that it'd be too much of a burden to have a baby now, and so he told me he wanted me to get an abortion. I'm very against abortion. I told him this, and he respected my opinion, but still tried to push me in that direction. He also suggested this "safe baby" thing. I don't really want to put my kid up for adoption either, because I can just imagine how much it hurts knowing your parents gave you up. My boyfriend doesn't want to tell his parents either, but he said he will, but you can tell how reluctant he is. He told me he loved me no matter what, but it was too much of a burden. I know he's not going to dump me, but he is afraid to keep it because he's going to college next year nad still trying to figure out his own life. Someone please tell me what I should do.

Seems like at 15 you just don't have the time to take care of a baby. Neither does your boyfriend. First of all, don't get an abortion (I already see you're agaisnt it, my mom had an abortion and it ripped her apart) anyways I'd say have your baby and put it up for adoption. I know it's tough to think that you have to give your baby away but that's a consequence of messing around sry. yea it does hurt to have your parents give you up but trust me it's probably better for the baby. To give you a situation there is a woman in my church who just I think 2 years ago her biological son came to her (not her husbands son) when she was younger she made some mistakes and she put him up for adoption. Now he lives with his family they all get along and everything is great. it was a great reunion. I'd strongly suggest keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption. best wishes sry i know it's tough. Good luck!!!

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much your advice is probably the best i've gotten today
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