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Okay, this is a weird question, I'm sure...but I figure I may as well see what y'all say.
Okay...my boyfriend kind of has a thing for "dirty talk" and I think it's totally ridiculous. I start laughing whenever he says something and expects me to respond. I think it bothers him that I keep giggling, but I can't help it! To me, it just seems so totally fake and stupid...
I mean, I've tried playing along, but I just feel so awkward and stupid, saying things like...that...
Should I try to do something about my giggling problem (lol)? Should I tell him I just can't do it? What do you guys think?

I say, be honest with your boyfriend about the dirty talk not working for you. Although, it might work for some, if it doesn't feel right to you, then you shouldn't do it. I understand your desire to give your boyfriend what he wants, however, you should be able to find ways of being intimate with each other that are comfortable for BOTH of you.

It's very important when dealing with sexual matters that you do not compromise yourself in any way. It's certainly fine to try things out to see how they make you feel, but once you've decided that something doesn't work for you - that should be the end of it. Any guy who genuinely cares for you should respect your intimacy preferences, (even if he is a little disappointed). Let him know what doesn't work for you, and more importantly, be sure to let him know what does work for you.

Also, remember that guys have insecurities too. While explaining to him that dirty talk isn't something that you want to engage in, try not to make him feel like he is a pervert for being into it. Best of luck to you.

Kind wishes,

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(Rating: 5) Yours has been the best advice so far, and I agree. I'll try really talking to him about it. Thanks =)

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