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All my friend has been doing lately is complaining. Not to be stuck up or anything but things are going a little better for me than they are for her lately and shes tryen to bring me down with her so we can share being upset all the time . On the fone she doesnt stop complaining I just want to hang up on her. I dont want to be rude to her about this but im just so sick of listening to her complain. PLEASE help!
It is certainly no fun to be around someone spouting negativity all of the time. I understand your frustration. The old saying that "misery loves company" is certainly true and while your friend is probably not consciously trying to bring you down, that is what is happening, nonetheless. However, it is important as her friend to be there for her during a tough time.
Sometimes, simply being positive in the face of negativity can help to turn things around. So, when she is whining and complaining, you could point out to her where things in her life aren't as bad as they might seem and talk about all of the things she has going for her. It might be just the nudge she needs to change her tune. Also, it never hurts to hear a pep talk from a good friend.
However, you are right to be concerned because being around someone who refuses to be anything but negative, can really bring you down and burn you out. So, do your best to help her come around and be patient with her, but if she stays on her negativity binge, you might have to talk to her more directly. Explaining to her how that kind of thinking will only bring that kind of reality into her life and that you want good things for her and worry that she'll never get them with her current attitude is one way of being direct without being too harsh. During your conversation, if you make it about her, instead of about you (even though she's driving you crazy), she'll probably be less likely to get defensive and upset.
Whatever you decide to do, don't feel guilty that things are going well for you. Keep a positive attitude because it's contagious, and being happy and emotionally healthy not only helps you, but ultimately it benefits everyone that comes in contact with you. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. You definetly helped me out a lot!!