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Alright...So, I've always been the rebel type. Stayed out late...never did what I was told. I couldnt WAIT til I was 18 and could do whatever I wanted. You know the type. As my 18th birthday is coming up...i've felt completely different. It's like I dont want to grow up. Its not that I dont want to deal with the "real world"...its just that I dont want to be grown up? lol Anyone else going thru this??
I must tell you that although it was a million years ago, I felt the same way when I was 17. I hated not being in complete control of every decision made in my life and I deeply resented anyone telling me what to do. I used every trick in the book to stay out late and sometimes all night. I argued with everyone that I could do it all on my own, but at the same time, I was very bad about taking care of my day-to-day obligations (school, household chores, family expectations, etc.) I was heavily resisting becoming the dreaded "responsible adult". I hated the idea completely.
Your feelings are completely normal. Just because you crave independence and complete control over your own life, does not mean that you want to be a stuffy and responsible grown up. The good news is that although with increased age more responsibilities are inevitable, you always have control over remaining young and carefree at heart. I have found that the secret is to maintain the best parts of my childhood persona:
* Try to never take yourself too seriously. If you spend time worrying about what other people think, you will make yourself miserable.
* Find away to laugh at everything (even inappropriate things) because it helps to not let the insane things that happen in this world bring you down.
* Don't forget that life can be as fun as you make it and conversely, it can be as miserable as you let it. Grown ups sometimes just accept that as adults, the fun is supposed to fade away. It doesn't have to be that way!
Keep these things in mind and know that with becoming an adult, increased responsibilities and complex challenges are sure to follow, but you ultimately have control over what kind of "grown-up" life you will lead. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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