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QOk, well heres the thing...I still like my boy friend, I think...see I am not sure if I like him...or I just liked making out with him...lol I know it sounds childish but when I am in his arms I feel safe, and it feels like nothing in the world matters anymore...I dont know what to do because we dated for 3 days and then broke up for about a week and then we dated for another 4 days and then broke up and it has almost been a week, both of the times we broke up it was because he was flirting with another girl and had told his best friend that he liked her more then me, and his best friend proved it to me both times...I dono what to do...i want him back, I think...PLease help me I dont know what to do...I feel so good when I am in his arms and when we are kissing but I dont know if i just like the fact of feeling that way, or feeling that way "WITH HIM"....if you know please tell me!!! I need to figure this out because it is driving me crazy!!
AYou both deserve a relationship in which you feel content with one another. It's not really healthy to settle or to be settled for: he should have something he doesn't consider second rate, and you shouldn't hang out where you're being treated second rate.
Basically, what I'm saying is that IF he is discontent with you, continuing the relationship is unfair to you both. But let's not jump to conclusions here; that "IF" is all caps for a reason. ;)
In any relationship, whether it's playful or serious, you need to communicate with your partner. Ask this boy if he really is more into this other girl, if he wants to be freed up to persue her; this not only would allow him to do so, but it'd let you find someone who can treat you as the top-rate girl you actually are.
However, he might just be a natural flirt & not realise that he's crossing your boundaries. If he gives you a lost puppy look when you ask if he likes her better, this is likely the case. And if it's in his nature to flirt, you need to think about whether you're comfortable with that, because internal nature might be very difficult for him to change. I think the decision is down to you.
How do YOU feel about him flirting with other girls? Are you willing to keep the relationship in-tact if you know that it will never go beyond that? And are you content to be his second choice forever, if that's the case?
It takes a lot of courage to act on these convictions and apply a healthy amount of self-respect, but I know you can do it. On top of it all, communicate! It's the only way you'll really know what's going on. ;)
[Added edit] I'm really glad this helped! Feel free to add me; I'll keep an eye out for your questions in the future, too. :)
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WOW! thats real good advice! omg that is the best advice i have ever gotten actually! lmao thank you sooo much would u mid if i added u to my favorites cause u r real good at giving advice
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