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omg , ok . hi , ok im 14yrs. old and i hav a frend whos 18 named mike . ok he's not in school nemoa and he graduated and he's goin to miami tomorow and invited me to go and a few othr ppl , but im so scared cuz what if i get caught skipping and if my parents find out . i dono what to do . it sounds so much fun tho . help!!!!!

My gut reaction is to say that this sounds like a bad idea, however, I will make a suggestion to you that should be helpful for any decision you need to make.

You must always look at the worse case scenario. Let's assume that nothing big and horrific happens (like getting into an accident or getting arrested). What are the consequences of getting caught? Are you already on shaky ground at home? Do you have trust built with your parents that would be broken and extremely hard to get back? How about school - if you get suspended for skipping how will that effect your grades or participation in any extracurricular activities that you might participate in?

You are a young adult and you need to be really clear on the consequences and repercussions of your actions. Once you've thought it out, then you can make a decision. But, if you decide to take a risk and it ultimately backfires on you, you already know what to expect and you will have to take responsibility.

Now for a little lecturing: I know it sounds like fun, but trust me there will be lots of opportunities for you to have fun within parameters that your parents approve of. And once you are old enough to be out on your own, (which I know seems like a hundred years from now but it's really not that far off) then you can pick up and go on road trips to your hearts content.

If you do decide to go, please be careful and be safe. Best of luck to you.

Kind wishes,

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(Rating: 3) ur right ....but i didnt care , i went , had fun , and my parents think im learning .

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