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My advice motto is LISTEN-CARE-RESPOND! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - we are stronger than we give ourselves credit for!
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this is long but i'll give u the highest rateing just plz answer..ok i lived w/ my grandparents my
whole life untill my grandfather died and so now i'm liven w/ my aunt uncle and cousin.well i had to move in a diff house and go to a diff school where i didnt kno n e one. and this was just a few monthes ago.well my aunt and i have always had a really good relationship till i moved in here but a few things happened and she didnt trust me n e more.i have never had to do and house work in my life till i moved in here.now she exspects me to do chores every day..its really hard for me to do this and her daughter has done then her whole life and my aunt is always sayin how she does her chores and i dont and i feel really left out..u no i dont feel like part of the family.she knos this and that i fell that she treats her daughter better i tell her that all the time.she is always sayin how my cousin gets good grades and is a really good kid...i have no clue wat to say to her that will make her understand how i feel...plz help me..
Before you can expect your Aunt to show you the respect you are obviously expecting (rightfully so), I think it is important that you work to show her that you can reciprocate that respect. My suggestion is to spend some set amount of time (i.e. 2 weeks) working very hard to complete all of the behaviors that your Aunt is expecting of you (chores, homework, good attitude). Then, you should sit down with your Aunt and calmly point out that you have been making a real effort to meet her expectations of you, that you want to be a part of this family and that you want to work toward regaining a good relationship with her. Then, you can tell her what she could do for you (within reason) that would help you feel like you are respected and that you belong. This is clearly a tough adjustment period for you, but don't forget that it is an adjustment for everyone and it's going to take effort and understanding from all to make this new situation successful.
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(Rating: 5) thx so much!!