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I am sure that this auestion has been asked before but I'd like some answers pertaining to my exact situation. I ussually hate online advice forums, but thougth I'd give it a try before I critisize it. Ok, so enough, here's my problem.

My best friend is a girl. She (and I) are 15 years old. I've known her for about two years now. We have been through so much together and help eachother out in so many ways that I see our friendship permanent unless I personally screw it up. When we first met, I immediatly liked her and wanted to date her. When I found out she felt the same way, I planned on asking her out. But some stupid girl found out that she liked me and proclaimed it to the school and also wrote a letter from me (which I didn't write) to her asking her out. Then this menace of a girl embarrased her in front of the entire cafeteria by starting a chant of "ask her out (then my name)". After that, we just became friends and never really brought it up again. It's been two years since then and we have both had at least one boyfriend or girlfriend. I am starting to really like her and it haints me that we never even gave it a shot. But I am not sure if she likes me more than a best friend or if she would agree to go out with me. She is the only person I trust and I can't give her up as a friend, which is why I haven't risked our friendship by asking her out. So, where do I go? What do I do? What do I tell her? What will she say? If she refuses to go out with me, will our friendship be awkward and ruined?

My personal experience of this type was that I dated a good mate, things went sour, but after a while we both bounced back, and we became even closer.

What I'm trying to say is if you are really good mates then if things go wrong, you should be able to remain mates. However all this is very dependant on the type of person you and your mate are.

Maybe you could do the hypotheticaly thing; 'Hey, Y. What you say if I asked you out. Hypothetically speaking'
A lot of what you are asking will depend entirely on the sort of people you and she are, so it will be impossible to predict exactly what aill happen.
Good luck whatever you decide :)

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(Rating: 4) Hmm, you might have something with the hypothetical question. I should have thought of that. It will let her know I like her but then again not really. So it works out whether she says yes or no. She is a very independent person, as I am, so I think discussing going out before I actually ask her is the best thing to do. Thanks for the advice. Guess these sites aren't so bad.
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