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Alright, I'm kind of torn on this issue. My mom and I are really close and we always have been.
There's just a little background info.
My boyfriend and I are planning on getting an apartment together when we graduate. I kind of want to tell my mom because he's away, earning money to put towards our apartment. She always says "If he loves you, then he shouldn't have gone." and I always want to say "Hey, he's doing this for us," and tell her about the whole apartment thing.
Thing is, she's never been crazy about the idea of two people not married living together. I hate to keep secrets from her, though. She's like a friend sometimes more than a mom.
Another issue is...
Yeah, I'm not a virgin. I haven't been since...april? and my mom keeps asking in this accusatory tone of voice "You haven't been having sex, have you?" (this is where she turns into my mom) and I've been saying "What? No. I told you, we're waiting..." or whatever
But I've seriously been considering telling her. She told me when she took me to get the pill that I could tell her if/when I had sex if I wanted to. She left the option open. I've been tempted to tell her recently.
Thing about THIS is, she hates liars. Like, a lot. If I were to tell her now, I'd have to admit that I've been lying since, like, april.
So what do you guys think? Should I tell her about both? One? The other? None?

I'm just looking for an opinion here, mostly out of curiosity. The final decision will obviously be mine. Thanks!

Well, I think you should probably tell her about the apartment. I expect it would be easier to tell her now, than when the removals van turns up, and it will stop her making nasty remarks about your partner. If she give you the whole 'your living in sin, if your not married' thing, or w/e then you can tell her that its better for you to live together for a while now, before you marry, so that any issies you and your partner might have will be ironed out before you both comit.

As for the other, I haven't really told my mother wither, but I think she already knows, so I can't really give my opinon on that :)

good luck, whatever you do :)

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(Rating: 5) Thanks. Makes a lot of sense. I was gonna use that "we need to iron out kinks before we marry" thing, actually...Lol
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